A new year and finally things are falling into place .........

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A new year and finally things are falling into place .........
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Thu, 02-07-2013 - 4:30pm

My on and off again boyfriend moved in fully finally in December and while things are not easy when you combine houses and have children involved things are going good. So good he gave me a ring Saturday and the wedding is in April of 2014. We had already talked about it and set the date but we seem to like to do things backwards ..... My oldest is not thrilled with things but she is coming around.

Thanks to the internet I know my ex husband is in an assisted living place down in Florida. I had found out he almost died back in November and it wasn't to good but till I had a light bulb moment yesterday I wasn't sure what was up but yesterday I realized as a sexual offender he has to register were he lives so I looked it up. I didn't reconize the address so googled it and found out where he is. Thnkfully one abuser has been stopped. Not in the way I would have liked but at least he is no longer a threat to anyone!! I hope one day everyone can say the same thing.

How are things going for you? V and I are going away next weekend. No clue where we are going but that it ok I don't care just want to get away for a day or so, ok would love to run away for a month but that is not possible so a day will work =)

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harmony how are things going? Still confused? I dont think its just about getting out there I think men are confusing!! Things are good here but he confuses me sometimes and blending two families is a lot harder then I ever thought it would be. My oldest has her good days when she will come over and get along with everyone and then her days when she gets upset and makes sure he hears her say she doesnt like him and he hasnt done anything but her and I will be fighting about something. I told her we were thinking about eloping and she got upset and wants there to be a wedding. WHAT? Maybe it isnt just men who are confusing? 

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Congrats!  That is such fab news.  I am sure that there is always going to be the adjustment period and I hope that all the kids are on board soon.  SO happy for you!

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Girl, I wish I knew WHAT  it all means.  It's actually kind of wacky.  He comes in for the weekend and then for the next two days after he leaves I'm the village idiot.  The phrase "Stella's got her groove back," keeps running through my head, lol.  He's a great guy, and truth be told, I don't think I've EVER fallen OUT of love with him, but neither one of us is interested in living together or anything like that.  We don't even admit to being b'friend and g'friend, but neither of us is seeing anyone else. He's the one that gave me the diamond pendant for Christmas.  ARRRRRGGHHHH, this is the really confusing part of "getting back out there" and starting to date again.  It's almost like you're "sneaking" up on dating again.  And you're head stays in a constant state of confusion because on one hand you want one thing and on the other - aw HELL no!  I've dated quite a bit and was even briefly engaged but broke it off, but my friend and I have been seeing each other off and on for almost 39 YEARS now.  What on earth keeps drawing us back to each other?  At this point I think I could find a corner to sit in, in a round room!  But it's a happy, goofy, befuddled kind of confused. Like I've got "swirlies" in my brain...Tongue Out

Mama Harmony

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Thank you everyone. Its more DS who doesnt like change but my oldest who use to be very understanding seems to not be able to forgive people these days nor understand things. But she is coming around. She got me a puppy and is over alot to see the puppy, and takes care of everything for him. Her, V, and I were suppose to go to breakfast Sunday but he got called into work but at least she was willing to go (just her and I went).

I m happy for you to Harmony!! That means it did mean something????

 

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Laughing A~, I am so, so happy for you and wish you nothing but the best of love, life, peace and prosperity. I think this is a heck of a way to start off a check-in thread, LOL! Your eldest will recover.  If I remember correctly, she doesn't like change very much anyway, no?  And as she sees how happy you are and how well you're doing, hopefully she will come around.  No one knows her like you do, Mom.

I'm "seeing" someone also, and have been seeing him for many, many years, between spouses, other partners, his g'friends and my b'friends and somehow, we always manage to get back in touch and pick up right where we left off.  It's almost like that old Neal Simon movie "Same Time, Next Year."  (Oh no, now I really AM dating myself!) except that we see each other more frequently, thank goodness.  It's been really good for me because he respects my boundaries, which are very clearly stated, we have a good time together even when we aren't doing a darned thing, and neither one of us has ANY real expectations.  We just spend time together and be what we are and it's good.  I'm glad we're both in a good place.  Swirling you around in a happy dance!

Mama Harmony

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It's great to see you so happy and confident, April!  Best wishes for the wonderful future you deserve.

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GOBSMACKED!  Girl, I'll be back later, I gotta process all this.  Hugest hugs and happy dancing for you.

Mama Harmony

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GOBSMACKED! A~, I'll be back later.  I hafta process THIS!  Hugest hugs.

Mama Harmony