Ok here it gose:
I have been married for 8 years.
I was really concerned when I read your post.
Red flags for me...
Do you have someone you can talk to that you trust?
YOur husband has problems.
I agree with the other posters and what you are experiencing is abuse.
I have actually given a name to those so called car incidents when in a car with an abuser. It seems its so typical of abusers when riding in cars with them.
My ex pulled that often.. I would be sitting in the car with him as a passenger and he was driving.. Well? It must have been one of his off days and he would start trouble with me and say something stupid.. If I answered I wasnt right and if I didnt answer he would go beserko and start driving like a maniac and try and make us crash.. All the while I would be crying and begging him to stop. He would then pull over on the side of the road and tell me to get out.. Then the crying and begging and pleading would start..
When I was going through our divorce he would tell me that I would wind up in the streets and be homeless and never go on another vacation.. and if I did it would be in a ghetto or by a NJ aiport where there are gangs and all. I was so brainwashed that I believed him..
None of that ever happened but you see how abusers can brainwash us and make us think these things? Its called conditioning and if you get out