Now I know how my friends felt..very sad

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Now I know how my friends felt..very sad
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 1:44pm
I am sure most of you remember me telling you about the Lady I went to court with and was helping. Well she went back to him.I talked to her a few Minutes ago. She called to tell me how nice he was being and how he promised to never lay even a finger on her agian. I tried to be understanding and remember how it was when I would run back to my ex. I reminded her how when we pulled his record there were many cases of DV agianst 3 other women he was with previously. This guy is crazy the last time the cops maced him to get him off of her he just stood and told them to mace me *&%$#_*&^%(S. I have had mace in my eyes before and it hurts bad. He just stood and took it because he was so angry and out of it with rage it did not phase him. I told her I would be here for her and she ask me if I was still going to take her to court for her continuence for her Protection from abuse order. I told her it no longer was in effect because she has willingly spent the last 3 days with him. The judge told her if she went back it was voided. Of course she told me all the things he had promised and I told her she could stop mid-sentence because I was with an abuser and I already know all the lines. I ask her if I could have number where she was so I could call and check on her and he would not allow it. Well I did my best but I know the next time I see her she will most likely be in a casket. I know that is blunt but This man is that violent and he will stop at nothing to have her. Bye ladies thanks for letting me vent.Cherry
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 1:54pm
Gosh, Cherry. I feel so awful right now. Hugs for you and I'll try and I'll be thinking of your friend. I hope you see her again...alive. I really do. Unfortunately from your last few posts, I think I have to agree with you.

Hugs!

Gabby

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Registered: 05-27-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:57pm
Awww Cherry, this is so tough, I am so sorry. I am sorry for your friend, too. I hope she stays safe, this guy sounds very dangerous. Bless her heart, I know she appreciates all you did for her, and no doubt it won't be long before she has to leave again.


You did the right thing by being there for her, and I know you have planted seeds that will remain with her, and the next time maybe she will be able to get out sooner and stay gone.

Hugs!