Oh My Goodness..this freaked me out

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Oh My Goodness..this freaked me out
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 9:40am

I woke up to TWENTY ONE emails ...from HIS cell number ..the weird thing about it ..he acted like he was writing to someone else ...saying things like "nah man , I love her ,its breaking my heart that she wont see me ,shes scared of me and sleeps with a knife,no I could never love again ,It will kill me if she divorces me "" what would you do if your wife felt that way about you ? "

He wants me to think that he was writing to his friend .and SOMEHOW they ended up in MY inbox...he is really nuts .

I wonder if he thinks that I am really that stupid.

Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 10:13am

That is freaky. Sometimes abusers do the craziest things to throw you off balance. Good job recognizing yet another tactic.

Have you thought about a restraining order? I will pray protection over you from ALL his tactics. In Jesus name.

Love,
Loonybunny

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 10:27am

THank you so much Loony I need prayers ....I have thoguht HARD about getting a RO....and I hate myself sometimes for NOt going through with it ....But everytime I start for the courthouse.he completly stops everything he is doing ..and is SO incredibly sweet and almost normal acting ..I just feel so guilty...I know I am wrong ...but It just hurts .

I start thinking "well maybe hes not so bad afterall "and decide that I dont need the RO.I keep saying to myself ..."the next time he acts up I will do it " and then he acts up ,and bf I can even get to the courthouse he is acting normal again ...

I find myself making light of his behavior..and I will say that compared to the past ,he is a little better now .but it just seems to go back and forth....

I will surley go the next time he threatens me ...which is rare ..but if that happens again I will do it with hesitating .

Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 10:35am
Time for that restraining order, methinks. Remember that the sweetness is just another tactic, one probably aimed specifically at preventing you from getting one. And if he's that invested in you not getting a RO, doesn't that mean you need it all the more?
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Registered: 03-22-2006
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 8:05am

sometimes what he used to do was say a friend text him on his phone about me and that he's getting phone calls from someone in a state that i use to live in.

i had access at that time to all phone calls online since I paid them. No text messages received from odd number, no other calls received, except from me.

He would yell about this person in the other state. He later said he called the person. I said ok - well let's go call together and he got defensive. Come to find out, later he said it was a joke. If a joke is meant for him to yell and dwell on with accusations towards me for over a month on this, that's plain out sick.

I remember he did mention calmly to me... what would your parents think if i killed you?
I told his mom and she said for me just to ignore him. Let him keep saying stuff because he doesnt mean it. Okkkkkkk... you can only handle so much of that.