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|Sun, 08-19-2012 - 3:45pm|
and boy have I gotten old - pushing 50 now and 30 something when I started posting here. I have a couple of brief updates and a referral for a friend to do so I will get on with it.
The "Gruesome Twosome" are still a twosome though not nearly so gruesome as they were when I gave them that particular nickname. Mari and Harry (alias "the gruesome twosome") have graduated from high school. It seems like just yesterday we were "in the thick of things" and trying to put our lives back together following our abuse and his arrest but it's been 13 years since he was arrested, tried and convicted. We have moved on and that light I used to see shining at the end of the tunnel now mostly pours sunshine down on my head.
Mari is bent on being a pediatric neurologist and is working on her degree in Pre-Med so that she can get into medical school. I have no doubt that the young woman who spent several years working to change sentencing laws related to people like her biological father will succeed in her pursuit of being a pediatric neurologist. She's got "tenacious" locked up in spades. Her twin brother, Harry, does as well. He's decided he wants to be an astrophysicist (I can barely spell that one and don't ask me to PRONOUNCE it - it's not happening) so he is working towards a degree in physics. He's come so far most of the "old timers" wouldn't recognize the young man he has become - he's still bi-polar, he still has PTSD - he's also got dreams today which he never had when we were "in the thick of it." I'm back in school too - working on a Master's Degree in Environmental Science - Harm, April... can you two see me playing in the dirt? I do it a lot these days and I am loving every minute of it.
Ladies... those of you who are in the thick of things and dealing with abuse every day... please listen to me...
There is life after abuse. I will not lie to you, it will take a while for everything to settle down - it may take several times of trying to leave before you are successful - but there is life beyond abuse. It will also take hard work on your part - counseling is hard work and needed to avoid the trap of another abusive relationship. There is light at the end of the tunnel - as soon as you leave you cease being a victim and become a survivor. Every minute after you have left your survival becomes more assured. There's hope, there's help, there's life. The sunshine at this end of that great long tunnel to Hades known as "abuse" is warm and contains something called "Freedom." Keep moving forward - trust me when I say you will know when you step into the sunshine again.
April, Harmony... I gave a friend of mine a link to the board here. I have no idea what name she will use but she's in the UK and her story is enough to leave me speechless (and you both know that's almost impossible to accomplish).
HUGE HUGS everyone
Renee (AKA Seli or Marialys)