Old member returning to share my story

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Old member returning to share my story
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 10:15am
Hello all! I was a member on this board from 2002-mid 2003. When I came to this board, i had been married 4 years to an abusive man. He was abusive physically, mentally, and verbally. On many occassions he would put me down about my looks, constantly look at other women, look at porn on the internet, hit me, threaten me..etc.. you know how it goes with these types of men. I wrote my story on this board and everyone suggested the best thing for me to do was leave. In all honesty, I left him and came back to him a total of 8 times in a 6 month period. In May 2002, I finally got the courage to pack a few things and leave him. I moved back in with my parents, and then finally back out on my own. My husband continued to verbally attack me and tried to hurt me physically, but he also started watching my place, watching my every move. So I got a restraining order against him. Then I did the wrong thing, i started to think he had actually changed and decided to give him another chance. It was great for a few weeks, then I found out he was having an affair with another woman. He told me it meant nothing, and that he wanted me. So again, i believed him and gave him another chance. It was one long emotional roller coaster. One week, he loved me, the next week, he was back into his old habits.. i still hadn't moved back in with him, thank goodness. So i thought for a long time what i really wanted. Did i want to spend the rest of my life with someone who had cheated on me and still abused me... or did i really want to get on with my life and find someone who would love me for who i am and never hurt me. I made the decision to go ahead and go thru with the divorce. For some reason, it shocked him that i was doing it finally. But to this day, i have no regrets about my decision. there is life after an abusive marriage/relationship. I met a man in the past year who has given me something my ex could never give me... self worth.. He treats me like a queen...and he loves me for who i am and i know he would he never hurt me. We are actually getting married in 2 weeks. So ladies, just remember, there is life after abuse.. a better life... you can do it!!!

Hugs,

Jenn

IF anyone wants to chat or needs advice, you can always email me at softballplayer1979@yahoo.com or IM me in AIM...jennwray1979.

Jarred Christopher due 1/8/05 Lilypie Baby Days
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:48pm

Hi Jenn, and welcome back!


I vaguely remember you, I joined in 10/02 under a different screen name.

CL-Blueliner4