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|Mon, 08-15-2011 - 2:43pm|
ok..another venting session from me. I think I am just too weak to deal with all this. I should have just shut up and put up.
DD said she can't deal with 2 houses so she is just going to stay with him. As his place has all the nice stuff and that has been her home for ever. But get this - she wants me to come and still drop her places, take her for lunch and dinner as the case may be. And also she took the cat and wants me to come see her and all.
Now - yes..all of you will say - screw her..be firm with her. But if I suggest to her anything..she threatens she can't deal with it and school is opening and it is just how it is..and she will do something.
I am just not strong enough..I now know why I came back 2 times before..and why I waited. I should have just put up and shut up. They say - if you are not ready to see the pain of your children, you are not ready for divorce. Yes, if he was hitting me and physically violent, maybe it would have been more justified or he could have been sent away..I think the only people here who have made it through are where the other spouse is in jail or gone away from their lives.
In my situation where he has the money, the house and DD's teenage issues, the timing is not right..If I go through a lawyer it is 5-10K down to get the same amount of money from him for school or child support. If I insist on house being sold, it will literally 'kill' DD..I am in a mess. I am just not strong..and some of us are just the way they are. So please everyone, dont judge others when they can't leave. It is a fact that things dont necessarily get better..or are replaced by another set of problems. On top of it, people who encouraged to leave are now nowhere around to help ..(too busy..or excuses). My family is far away..my dad is very sick. I need to go visit them soon. I feel tired, exhausted..and unable to work. If I lose my job..that would be the worst thing that will happen. Well..he was right..he says he stuck it out too until she is in college..and then we could have gone our ways..maybe he is right..