with an optimistic grain of salt
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| Tue, 05-04-2004 - 10:33am |
I know that this is only temporary, because he's done this before. It may last 2 hours, 2 days or 2 years, but it is still only temporary. And all my plans continue to be in place.
Last night we had an almost civil conversation. After I reminded him that the house was also half mine, in response to "it's my f****** house and my f****** money". I quietly said, no it's also mine. To which he responded that he would sign everything over to me, and move out this weekend. I said "fine, so what you will". That was not the answer he expected, because if he leaves he has no control over me anymore.
We still disagree about what to do to get our 18yo son home. He wants him home now so he can rant and rave and "lay down the law", I say let him come home when and if he chooses. And when he does get home, we can talk about his resposibilities to stay here, rent free.
Let me reiterate, this is temporary. I really do know that. Yet, it gives me the opportunity I need to find a full-time job, which I really wanted to wait until the new school year to do, as I am hoping to get a position as a teacher in the fall. He continues to be upset with my plans of going back to work, and I know why, it makes me less dependent on him. But, it relaxes some of the need to get out ASAP, I don't feel as threatened.
Our 9yo son asked his Dad last night if he was done yelling, because he really doesn't think it's very mature of his Dad to be yelling and throwing temper tantrums. Of course, his Dad thought I had put those words in his mouth, but I hadn't and DS let him know that those where his thoughts, not mine.
It's funny that I look at our 2 boys and realize that even through all this yelling throughout the years, they get it. I must be doing something right with them. Because I NEVER yell back, ever. I am not a yeller. Maybe a whipping post, but not a yeller.
anyway, just wanted to let everyone know what was going on, I keep everyone on this board in my prayers for strength, courage, and peace. Just so you know.
Lori
