OT: Needing family advice
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|Wed, 01-11-2012 - 1:59pm|
I know this really isn't the forum for this issue, but I feel so close to ya'll that I would really value your opinions. My husband's grandfather passed away over the holidays. He was very much like a father to him. On the last visit to see him before Thanksgiving, he had asked my husband to take care of his grandmother. Due to unfortunate circumstances, we did not make it to the hospital in time to say goodbye to him. We were in town, but we arrived past midnight and believed another family member was up at the hospital with his grandparents. We later found out that when it became apparent that he was dying, the other family member (an uncle) left, leaving his grandmother alone at the time of his death. She was very hurt by this and my husband is feeling immense guilt over it. He has really just become incredibly depressed. He's barely eating, can't focus or do much of anything and is really just overwhelmed by the emotions surrounding this.
I just don't know what to do. He and I both know that I just really don't understand. I deal with death in a very different way and once it is over I believe in just moving forward, basically just deleting that person from my thoughts - if that makes any sense at all. I've tried to just be there for him, and that is really not enough becuase he is getting worse.
What should I and can I do?