Our sons moving out
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| Fri, 04-30-2004 - 7:14am |
H began yelling, punching son in the arm, threw a bottle of aspirin at me, which hit me in the hand ("If I would have meant to hit you, it would have hit you in the face"). Then the rest of the tyrade began. here are the new rules. He doesn't like that I work on Sundays (I play the organ at a church), because then I'm not home with him, He doesn't like that I am pursuing a job as a teacher, because sometimes they have to work at nights when he's home, and wants me there then. So first it was quit the job at church, don't look for a teachers job. Now it's he forbids me to quit at the church cause he doesn't want that to be his fault, and he wants me to look for a teaching job, because he's not going to take the fall for me being "unhappy".
Then he started with the "I give you everything you want, I do everything for you, I have made all sorts of sacrifices for you and the boys" blah,blah, blah...
So now as usual it's all my fault that we are having problems because he does so much for us it must be our fault.
This started at 8:15 pm, at midnight, he walked by our oldest room, and started on him again, clean up this room by the time I get home from work tomorrow or you'll be sorry.
when I got up this morning, I went to wake him up (the oldest), and there he is in his room, relatively clean. With all his stuff packed. And he said, I'm leaving at least till I graduate, cause I can't go to school with all this stress from home. He also thinks that if he leaves some of the yelling will stop. I understand why he is leaving. I don't blame him. It's probably the safest thing he can do. I know where he's going and trust those people, I gave him the cash I had on hand, told him I would only call him on his cell phone to keep it charged up, and that I wouldn't let his Dad know where he is.
I love that kid, and I am sitting here bawling like a baby because of all of this. But he has to keep himself safe too.

IMHO, I think you should get rid of your H. His ranting and raving is not going to stop.
sorry, just venting, talking to the abuse shelter now.
Anyway, I'm venting now, too. I'm very upset at how STBX is using me and the kids. I've seen all this so much and I'd like to punch your H for saying and doing what he did to your son.