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| Wed, 03-02-2005 - 10:32am |
Hi and advice needed,
I have been here before and need help and advice, been married for 21 years and my marriage is full of control issues. My husband has problems and he is always finding fault with me and everything that i do and he has verbally and physically abused me so many different ways in the last 21 years, im just tired of living in a lie with this man, i feel like im here because of the money that he makes. I married him when i was 18 years old and 40 years old now and havent had time to chose a career or get employment so i dont have many career options at this time, what can i do? Also i am scared of him cause he is mean to everyone at different times and last time i tried to leave him and seperated from him he was always doing damnage to my car ( busting all 4 tires, taking off fan belts, writing notes on car). I dont have a very good support system because i am a only child and my mother and father think that this man is great to me because he is hard working and makes a good living, i have tried to tell my parents that i can not take this anymore but they tell me that i must stay here for my child, he is 8 years old. The domestic violence center here is good and i have talked to them but they dont offer me very many options and i feel like whenever i go there that im a number cause im in the support meeting with 8 other people and i need 1 on 1 conseling? can anyone give advice please thanks
I have been here before and need help and advice, been married for 21 years and my marriage is full of control issues. My husband has problems and he is always finding fault with me and everything that i do and he has verbally and physically abused me so many different ways in the last 21 years, im just tired of living in a lie with this man, i feel like im here because of the money that he makes. I married him when i was 18 years old and 40 years old now and havent had time to chose a career or get employment so i dont have many career options at this time, what can i do? Also i am scared of him cause he is mean to everyone at different times and last time i tried to leave him and seperated from him he was always doing damnage to my car ( busting all 4 tires, taking off fan belts, writing notes on car). I dont have a very good support system because i am a only child and my mother and father think that this man is great to me because he is hard working and makes a good living, i have tried to tell my parents that i can not take this anymore but they tell me that i must stay here for my child, he is 8 years old. The domestic violence center here is good and i have talked to them but they dont offer me very many options and i feel like whenever i go there that im a number cause im in the support meeting with 8 other people and i need 1 on 1 conseling? can anyone give advice please thanks

First and formost, you dont have to stay in any situation if it makes you uncomfortable.