Pls tell me if this is abuse

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Pls tell me if this is abuse
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 11:27pm


I broke up with my bf of six years several months ago, and we're doing the friends thing.

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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 7:02pm
Don't so much know if it's abusive, but there is a weird dynamic working here, with what looks like a lot of mixed messages being sent. Step back and really look closely at this "friendship". IMO, it's time to move on before things really do get sticky. I'm not saying drop all contact, just don't make an extra effort to keep this relationship going. Be civil when you see each other, but this quasi-dating thing doesn't seem like a really good idea to me. Just my thoughts on the matter.

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Mon, 01-03-2011 - 12:07pm

There must have been a solid reason for your break up..I think you should stick with the break up. I see him reverting to his ways where he feels it is not just a casual friend helping on a Christmas party so that the guy has someone to go with. Abuse or not, he has RED flags. I would move on (completely)...this ..'lets be friends' sends a mixed signal.