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| Tue, 04-20-2004 - 10:54am |
Hi all. I am so ashamed to have to be telling you this, but I am a month and a half pregnant with Kevins baby. He wants nothing to do with it at this point in his life, so I am stuck raising it on my own and I don't know if it is fair to bring a child into this world knowing it's father wants nothing to do with it. People say he'll change down the road or maybe when he sees him or her, but I doubt he will. He is not ready to grow up, he has told me that himself. He says he is not financially able to take care of another child. Well, either am I but I don't know that I j\have any other choice. He is so worried that I am gonna disrupt his happy little life he has tried to put back together with his wife. I am gonna tell her since he is moving her into the house we shared together, she has a right to know. He talks about doing what is right for his daughter, well what about this baby? It didn't ask to be brought into this world. I am just so confused. I told my stbxh and obviously he is furious since we are still legally married. He keeps asking me how I am gonna raise another kid on my own and he does make some valid points, but I don't know that I could go through with the other options I have. Christina



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Oh, brother.
CL-Blueliner4
All the other posters have given you great advice, so I would listen to them.
I went to a place called Lifeline and they are willing to help me with so much when the baby is born(layette set, clothes, blankets, stroller, car seat, walker) whatever I need. They are also gonna help with maternity clothes. I know I can do this, it's gonna be tough but I will manage. I have over come a lot in the last 5 months. By the way, the due date is the week of Christmas. Thanks again everyone for the support. I knew I could get help here.Christina
Don't you worry about what Kevin or STBXH think . . . you do what YOU feel is best for yourself and your baby. I know you'd be a great mother to this child. But, it's important to remember -- part of being a great mother is sometimes knowing what you're *not* capable of handling right now. If you choose to give the baby up for adoption, that may be best for both you and the child. Or, it may be best for you to keep the baby and raise it by yourself. Obviously, at this point, it looks like the baby would be better off without Kevin OR the STBXH -- and, for that matter, so would you, girl! It's a shame that Kevin is acting this way -- I always thought a lot of him from some of the things you've posted in the past. It just goes to show you -- a lot of guys talk a good game, but when the time comes to "sh!t or get off the pot" they inevitably "get off the pot"!
You and I both know you'll make whatever decision is right for you. You just need to have faith in yourself and know that you *will* make the right decision, no matter what. And, I just have to say it: CONGRATULATIONS!!! A Christmas baby -- how cool is that?!?! :oD
Love & BIIIIIG HUGS!
~Emm
Hi girley…honestly, I think you should stay away from both of these men and stand on your own for a while so that you can clear your head.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
- Maya Angelou
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