probably getting tired of me
Find a Conversation
probably getting tired of me
| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:08pm |
But I just really need to get this out. His X-wife does she realize that her actions make my life a living hell when she does stupid crap?! She has no put an OFP on him against her daughter (not his daughter her daughter from a previous relationship)because he went to school on Monday the same school his son goes to and he went to his sons classroom to show off a bug exihibit. Some guy he knows works for the school and has exotic bugs snd what not snakes, roaches what not this guy he knows suggested they go to his sons sisters calss as well. Well know since he went to her class, and her daughter wasn't even there because his X pulled her out of class as soon as she found out about it. She acts like he is a serial killer! He has NEVER harmed her daughter why is she doing this crap?! I am so angry and frustrated and hurt right now. Does she realize that this could harm me?! She doesn't know I know yet and I refuse to have anymore contact with her I AM DONE with her! I hope this all makes sense but i didn't know where else to go

BRAKES!
Smoothie, calm down for a minute.
CL-Blueliner4
I agree with Gabby. If your husband is taking out on you his frustrations with his ex-wife, it is not her fault, but HIS. He has surely done something to create all the fear she has.
Honey, it is often easier to feel angry toward someone other than our abuser -- it is so much safer. But in truth, HE is the one with the problem and the one who is creating the problems.
Hugs... hang in there, Smoothone, and post as often as you feel.
Christine
It is normal to want to control everything around us when we are with an abuser. Gosh, we know that if things get stressful etc., WE are the ones who are going to pay. However, it is impossible to control our lives or theirs... and the abuse will come back no matter what. Abusers will just find another excuse for doing it.
It is NOT okay for him to treat you this way, sweetie.
Hugs again.
Christine
STOP, STOP, STOP!
Smoothie, this isn't your deal.
CL-Blueliner4
I get the feeling you are deathly afraid of his anger when he gets home. If so, can you stay with a friend or relative for a couple of days? I am VERY worried for your safety. I sense your terror. If you cannot go to a friend's, please consider calling the local shelter and telling them you are in danger.
You need to keep safe. You do NOT need to pay for his illegal activities or wrong-doings with your safety or your life, sweetie.
Hugs!!
Christine
I don't have any words of wisdom or advice right now, but I do have a large box of Kleenex, a snuggly blanket and fluffed up the large pillows over by the fireplace if you want to go curl up over there.
He was a miserable SOB to you last night.
CL-Blueliner4