QOTW: Revenge!

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Registered: 09-29-2005
QOTW: Revenge!
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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 4:50am

We often say that a good life, free from abuse, is the best revenge.

 

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 5:37am

Here are mine!


what have you done...

 

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 7:10am

I will prove to him that I am stronger than this control that he has over me ..I will prove that I am strong enough to raise my kids without him ...and make something of my life ,no matter how bad he hates it .

I will be happy ...without him telling me what happiness is .....

I really dont want to hurt him and I pray that he will have the strength to help himself ...after all he has put me through ,I still cant hate him ...I have strong resentment ,,,but I cant hate ...(sometimes I wish I could and wonder why I dont )

I will pick myself up and work on MY life ,to get it going in the direction that I want it to go ...

Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2003
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 7:21pm

Oh Girl, I love these kinds of threads!

You know....I was thinking today....I have been on this board for THREE years now. Even tho I stepped down back in November, I can honestly say this board was/has been/and always will be a life saver. Because if it wasn't for the existence of this board, I know I will still be w/my abuser, or worse,...become another statistic in the record book.

Anyway.....my revenge? I hadn't spoken to him in two and a half years, no contact mind you. His last words to me were, if you ever need me, call me. I responded with a "go to hell" and slammed the phone down. Haven't spoken to him since, and that was two and a half years ago, of NO CONTACT. He's been out of my life and I can breathe. I don't walk on eggshells. I can drink my coffee that way I want too. I wear skirts now, I don't wear the hoochie mama ones, but I can wear cute skirts now without getting ripped a new one for it. I can wear my high heeled or high heel boots now (some of you may not know that I'm six feet tall) and he hated the fact I wore them because he said, "youre tall enough as is, stop wearing them, youre trying to be a slut". I can wear make up now. I can come and go as a I please now. I can go get manicures and pedicures without him making a snide remark. And the best of all? I look in the mirror and see the most beautiful woman looking back and she's quite lovely to be around and be with. Three years ago,....I would have said how ugly the reflection was, but now.....the reflection when I look in the mirror,.....is breath taking.

So don't ever tell yourselves you will never break free. You will one day, one day at a time. All of you are in my thoughts and prayers and may the Lord bless every one of you.

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Registered: 03-13-2006
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 9:32pm
All of your posts made me smile. It gives me hope for something better. I just got out of a relationship and can't see the light yet at all. Thanks for your inspiration.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 4:43am

What i HAVE done?

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