Question about teen..

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Question about teen..
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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 1:35pm

I was half thinking of posting this on the parenting board but maybe this is related given my circumstances and you guys know me best. So whenever

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 2:10pm

Pushing your mother is in no way a normal

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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 3:47pm

Well..couple of times she pushed me or should I say, almost forced me out. I called her on it and then it is just 'I dont want to hear anything..' if I even mention anything. Go way, I am busy.Basically doesn't want to address anything. Just wants to go about doing what she is doing.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 4:23pm

But you're her mom--it's in

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 5:14pm

I think she feels safe with you...she might be acting out towards you because of that.

Maybe she is just getting "fed-up" to...

What is he your husband like with her?

It could very well be she is somewhat "Anxious" herself and the "Anxiety" is causing her confusion, uncertainty.

She might even be "Angry"...

Like you said in the past you have left, went back and were going to leave again but it didn't happen...

Do you think she is simply worried about you?...maybe herself?...

Scared to?

Does her dad invade her space, her things?

Maybe her room is the "ONE" place she can go to escape...

I know after my ex and I separated he would "Grill" our kids...so I told them if he asked anything and they were uncomfortable answering that they just didn't have to and if he had an issue he could take it up with me...

It took a lot of pressure off them.

Nightangel
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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 5:42pm

Night angel..I think you have hit the nail on its head..Valid points all. It is probably reflecting Anger and Anxiety on her part..

He blows hot and cold with her too..they treat everyone same..At the same time, maybe I should have shown the leadership in doing what needs to be done and I haven't. Partly because of her backlash..that comes if I ever remotely utter the word 'leave'..

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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 5:47pm

Hi geoteo..guess my question is how do I get around to it..say this is not easy but she needs to know..

Her reaction..'go away..go away!' (yelling)' I am sick of you'. Get out of here. Sometimes rude, sometimes tantrum...Not sure how to get to that. I guess the best conversation I have with her is when I am in car giving her ride..but then it is mostly about how the test was, what the teacher did..

Anything beyond..she has almost a Strong reaction ..Did I mention I took her once again to show this place few weeks back..she literaly almost yanked the steering wheel of the car. That's when the therapist said..you have to first do it yourself and she will follow. But dont put guilt in her by showing any place..