Question on entering house?

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Question on entering house?
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Tue, 07-06-2004 - 6:13pm
Got a question girls...I moved out. Yes, the house is half mine in divorce court, but do I have a right to enter it otherwise? Should I knock on the door when picking up my daughter? For instance, today I went there while he was working to get my daughter's cell phone charger. She had mine. The doors were locked (we never would lock the doors); but the day I moved out, I took the extra key from the garage in case I needed to get in. Well, I did today. Is that my right? Should I knock when I go there and he's home? I feel like I should, yet I'll go in when he's not there.

Then, he's decided after 15 friggin years to put on a new front porch. I always wanted a new front porch. Of course, this entails taking more money from the accounts that I have not touched. My name is still on the accounts. He has taken money (like $3,000 and never told me) but I haven't because I'm "nice" or stupid, whichever. And here's me worrying about buying a bed for my daughter to sleep in here and asking him for the money. I probably should just buy it and take out the money. We were being nice to each other but now we're not. I feel before long he'll drain all the money from the accounts so I don't have any.

I didn't want to fight. I felt if I wasn't fighting with him, he'd be more apt to give me money. I realize now that's another control situation on his part. I guess I really need to get an attorney and let the bickering begin. It already has.

I need insight on the house problem though. I found my daughter's key and was going to get another one made. I just forget things there and don't want to have to face him if I need something. Especially, when he's in this mood.

Happy

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Registered: 12-06-2001
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 11:08pm
Technically, since you moved out, it's no longer your residence.

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Registered: 02-10-2004
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 6:35am
Hi Happy,

You moved out, so that means you no longer live there. As Tracy said, make a list. One thing I want to do is warn you about doing things "nice." It's not going to happen. When I started divorce proceedings I tried to do everything fair. They have no concept of fair, so don't waste your time or energy. Most of all, don't even try to figure out why he will do the things he does. Let him put on a porch, that just makes the property value go up even more. Go to the bank and take out 1/2 the $$$ and put in your account.

Good luck,

Terry