Question on entering house?
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| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 6:13pm |
Then, he's decided after 15 friggin years to put on a new front porch. I always wanted a new front porch. Of course, this entails taking more money from the accounts that I have not touched. My name is still on the accounts. He has taken money (like $3,000 and never told me) but I haven't because I'm "nice" or stupid, whichever. And here's me worrying about buying a bed for my daughter to sleep in here and asking him for the money. I probably should just buy it and take out the money. We were being nice to each other but now we're not. I feel before long he'll drain all the money from the accounts so I don't have any.
I didn't want to fight. I felt if I wasn't fighting with him, he'd be more apt to give me money. I realize now that's another control situation on his part. I guess I really need to get an attorney and let the bickering begin. It already has.
I need insight on the house problem though. I found my daughter's key and was going to get another one made. I just forget things there and don't want to have to face him if I need something. Especially, when he's in this mood.
Happy

You moved out, so that means you no longer live there. As Tracy said, make a list. One thing I want to do is warn you about doing things "nice." It's not going to happen. When I started divorce proceedings I tried to do everything fair. They have no concept of fair, so don't waste your time or energy. Most of all, don't even try to figure out why he will do the things he does. Let him put on a porch, that just makes the property value go up even more. Go to the bank and take out 1/2 the $$$ and put in your account.
Good luck,
Terry