Question girls?

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Question girls?
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Sun, 07-04-2004 - 2:01am
Two weeks ago H calls me and tells me he has a surprise for me. He KNOWS I hate surprises after living with me for 26 years. Anyway, tells me he got me three tickets to a concert and that I could find some friends to take. That he paid big money for these tickets since the concert was sold out. Well, first off, I find out the concert isn't sold out. Secondly, I hate seats; I'd rather sit in the lawn and he knows this from taking me to past concerts. And last but not least, my daughter wouldn't be around for me to take to this concert. I would be glad to go if I could have taken my daughter with me. And I'm not so sure he even paid for these tickets. Personally, I think he got them free and is trying to make himself look good. He lies a lot to make himself look good. Anyway, after the crap he put me through the other night because I went out with a friend, I'm to the point I'm really angry with him and have nothing to say to him. Well, this morning while he's at work (and sober), he's trying to make up with me on the phone. Ask me what am I going to do about these tickets and do I still want them. Tells me he was waiting for me to ask him to go but I didn't. He's the one that told me to ask friends, and I didn't ask for the damn tickets in the first place. Now, he's got these tickets. They're free to me. Do I take them, ask a friend, go out and have a good time and have him bask in the glory of him doing something nice for me. Or do I tell him to stick it? I told him today that, frankly, I didn't want the tickets because I didn't want to hear him say "well, I bought you those tickets" or tell all of his friends how nice he is for buying me the tickets. He told me that wasn't why he got them for me (yeah, right!) So, do I take the tickets and go have a good time on him or do I not. I'm still angry with him and I'm not being very civil, which is hard for me to do because I'm not like that and I always FEEL BAD!!! But I keep remembering the hurtful words he said to me. I'd divorce him tomorrow if it wasn't for the money and health insurance. I don't go very many places so I'm half tempted to take the tickets, invite a friend, and have a good time and pay the consequences when he throws it in my face.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 11:19pm

Tell him that as much as you would like the tickets, and it does sound fun, you're not really able to attend the concert, but it was a very nice gesture on his part.

CL-Blueliner4