Read this..

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Read this..
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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 1:55am

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 8:43am
And your child can see this also, yet insists you stay. Like I've said, it's not all about her.

Mama Harmony

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 11:49am

I agree with Cajun!

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 1:10pm

Ok, time for me to chime in. I don't come here very often anymore, but having left my abusive marriage with my teenage daughter in tow, I think I can provide some reassurance.

I had been married for over 20 years, had 4 kids, with the youngest being a girl, aged 13 at the time I left. My marriage had been 'over' for

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 1:16pm
THANK YOU, GINNY!!!! Finally, Winter, someone that speaks your language and has walked where you are fearing to tread. Ginny, thank you, thank you, thank you! See, Winter, there IS survival after uprooting your kid and making her go with you. And like we've all said, she WILL follow you. Oh, Ginny, thank you so very much!

Mama Harmony

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 2:20pm

THANK YOU!! JUST a quick reply

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 5:52pm
Hi Ginny, I was just curious about something. How were you able to leave the state with her? Why didn't he petition to get her back by court order?
sweets35
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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 6:27pm
Seems like others have been able to just up and leave out of state without a problem leaving. You know I could always use a roommate, free room and board in exchange for help with the babies, lol.
sweets35
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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 12:43am

LOL...sweets..you made me laugh..yeah..never been to FL..dd wants to see the theme parks there..suffice it to say..i am on the other end ..I think the other poster who left state..she had 4 kids..her ex probably could do nothing if that is what her 13 year old wanted. She did leave behind others. For me, there is tug of war with one. He is as overly involved as me..of course, with his need to control all the time.

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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 12:00pm

so this morning..i woke up..and feel like back to square one..I feel too defeated to do anything...too tired to put up with all the drama and upheavel..just too mentally torn down to leave my "so called comfort" zone.. I know what others wlll say..I know I will tell the same ..at this point..I just want to curl up and go to sleep and not think of anything. It is ridiculous. Everytime i come close only to have 2nd thoughts..

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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 7:05pm

Do you like the feeling of being defeated? Do you like someone having so much control over your life that you have no say about your own peace of mind? Do you like being helpless? Do you like being held prisoner in your own life?

If your answer to any or all are NO then use that anger and frustration and exhaustion to take control for yourself...you can rest and re charge when you are free....

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