Reconciling to the inevitable..any words of wisdom..?
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|Wed, 12-01-2010 - 3:07pm|
So as everyone knows, I have see-sawed..the whole..i am leaving..not leaving for a good six months now. For those who do not know, basically I was ready to leave but DD held me back. It came to the point where I had to leave on my own and have DD reconcile with me later. Even though I figured DD would end up with me , still that 50% back /forth did not appeal to me. Over thanksgiving, there was one instant where I kind of felt happy that I was not in some apartment all alone without DD.
Spoke to therapist yesterday..and she said..it is apparent that I am still holding on to my belief of being there with DD and the fact of not being part of her life is a big factor..considering there is only 3 years more of HS left. She suggests I should reconcile to holding on for 3 years..in the meantime if he does get physical or escalates, leave and go to a friends place or hotel and also inform DD this time that I will hang on..but only if things do not get worse.
Ok..I am not happy with any decision..how do I reconcile myself to the fact that I need to let go..as obviously..if I havent made my move in 6 months..I am not going to (without DD). My friend says I am just not strong enough to do what it takes to do a divorce, split assets, put up with all the anger that comes from DD..and says stay put..at least until she is in college or something happens where he is thrown out of house or something..
Guess my question to you all is - how do I find peace to comply with the inevitable..? I am just worried..I have been there too only to revert later to heck..why did I back out..