“Regular” vs. DV Counseling
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“Regular” vs. DV Counseling
| Fri, 05-06-2005 - 2:04pm |
The first thought many of us have when things start to head south with our relationships/marriages is counseling.
| Fri, 05-06-2005 - 2:04pm |
The first thought many of us have when things start to head south with our relationships/marriages is counseling.
You know when someone says something one way, where it sounds so wrong? That's when I call him on it and then he says it a completely different way where it sounds totally better, and then he says all I said was (fill-in). But it's the way you say it that makes the whole difference. Anyway, sorry to post so long on your reply but man were you on target that you have to be a special therapist to handle DV victims. The abusers twist you into a type of dynamic that does not make sense unless you are familiar with these types of manipulations. And abuse colors your whole world, affecting the way you think, your perspective on things, your levels of happiness. Before, just going to the supermarket, I was happy, walking down the aisle, enjoying doing it, and abuse for me took away a lot of the joy in the day to day things. Counting down the days until I'm leaving him......
(P.S.- sometimes I feel like it's so ridiculous for me to spend one more day here, what type of justification is there for that? But I am determined to have my beautiful older dd finish her schooling). Thank you if you've read this far. Didn't mean to rant, but you really struck a chord with me with your wonderful informative post.
Many years from now, I hope, when I am clear and free this place will hold a very special place in my heart as a place where I went to to unburden myself of the hell I am now living in. I will forever be indebted to this board........
Dealing With Domestic Abuse Board Website
Thanks, Didi.
CL-Blueliner4
Thanks for bumping this very important post. I haven’t seen it before. A while ago my son asked my husband why didn’t we go to marriage counseling to which my husband quickly replied…’because she won’t learn anything’. I guess I already knew instinctively that it would not do any good but there was my proof in his answer.
I sometimes think about going to my parish priest to see what advice he would give about my abusive relationship with my husband but I imagine him saying the very things you have in your post. And because I do feel guilty about the vows I made in my church I would probably be more upset for having talked to him.
I'm not especially religious, though my family is Catholic.
CL-Blueliner4