REPOST FROM OT - Redhot63042

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Registered: 11-12-2003
REPOST FROM OT - Redhot63042
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 2:05pm

I am in a relationship that started w/ my bestfriend, and not under the most honest circumstances. When he fell for me I was w/ my bf for 6yrs and he convinced me to leave him and start over with my bestfriend who fell in love with me and I had feelings for him too. My bestfriend convinced me I was in a co-dependent relationship and that I wasn't really in love. Our beginning was amazing we were in sync and on the same wavelength. He showered me w/ gifts for no reason, attention, told me I was beautiful and special. Now it has been 3 yrs w/ my bestfriend and we have been through some crazy life changes together, and our relationship has changed for the worst bc of his habits. He is irresponisble plays video games online all day and night and has created a job to make money doing it. We fight if I ask him to go out with me and he calls me names and puts his fists through the doors and throws things at the walls. He calls me every name in the book. And he tells me it is my fault I drive him to this destructive behavior. I am sick of it all, but I can't kick him out I can't afford rent by myself. What do I do? Do you have any advice for me to deal with this mess of my life? and is there any hope for us? I still love him, but every nasty name and every hole in my wall is making me resent him more daily. Help!!


CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 3:06pm

Hi Redhot -


I am very, very sorry no one else has responded to you.

CL-Blueliner4