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| Tue, 02-14-2006 - 2:21pm |
Hello,
I am new to thid message board. I decided to post after be directed here by another board. Well like many of you I have been abused in my marriage. I have been married for almost 4 years. We have two children together. I have three from I previous relationship. We met and married very quickly. The abuse started with just hte emotional things. Things soon got physical and even through he doesnt' get physical often the fact still remains that he has done it. Well about a week ago I finally had a chance to leave. My father got ill and I needed to go home (out of state). When I had drove about 100 miles my husand called me on the phone and asked if I was going to return. I told him no. He started crying and yelling begging and pleading. My oldest son is 10 and could hear him over the phone. It upset him. He had his sister calling me and pleading his case. He promised to go to a batters program and attend marriage counseling. We have had one session of marriage counseling and he has yet to "find" a batters program. Well of course he has been sweet and doing all the things for he he should have been doing. However the little things that he does have started to creep up again. It has only been a week. First, I was tired from being sick this weekend. The children all had a stomach virus.(all 5 of them). I was exhausted. He wanted to have sex after he went out to some music event. He got angry when I said no and pouted all night. I finally gave in. I hate him.
My husband works for an shipyard. He has to take college classes in order to keep his job. He has two attempts to pass them. Last semester I got him some financial aid so we could have some money to buy a computer. It was an online class. He looked at the class for one day. Needless to say he failed. Now the shipyard wants him to pay for the second attempt. Again he has a pell grant which will cover the class. Instead of contacing the proper people to coordinate the payment he let it go. He calls me to say he must pay for the class or lose his job. The class is $400. Thankfully I handle the money so I know that if we pay for this class we will have no money for things we need until he gets paid again. I told him over and over to get it striaght and now he is acting like an idiot. I am very much looking forward to his blaming it on me. the truth of the matter is that if he had passed it in the first place we would not be going through this.
Why did I return. I am fed up. Even though he hasn't yelled or hit me again. I just can't take the immaturity anymore. I am ready to leave. I can feel the onset of a huge blowup. When I was home I felt so much peace. Anyone here relate. Why do we keep coming back knowing there is no change. He believes that if he doesnt hit me everything can be worked out. he is a fool. I am preparing to leave this summer. I am going home where I can finally have the peace I desire. I don't understand.

Welcome, veteran.