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| Wed, 01-05-2005 - 1:41am |
Hello to everyone, both posters and lurkers alike, and Happy New Year (or Hippo Gnu Deer, depending on who you talk to).
So, here we are, first of the year, a new year and a time to set some goals for the year.

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My real name is Kristin, but a lot of you on here already know that.
Happy New Year everyone. Well...I guess I'd be called a lurker, I've only posted once or twice. Anyway, I discovered this wonderful board in December. I am still w/my abuser, but this site has already helped me and taught me lots!
As for my goals for this year: I guess I'd just like to keep growing and moving forward - in my personal growth. I want to learn to stand up for myself more than I do now, I want to stop feeling like a victim! I guess more specifically, learn to stand up to my husband more than I do now. I want to teach my three sons the appropriate way to treat women with respect.
And ultimately, progress on the path toward being the woman God designed me to be.
Since I'm still w/my abuser it's a good idea for me not to give my real name. I think I'll adopt the nickname Neo - short for neophyte since I'm new to all this independence stuff.
Neo
Welcome, Neo!
CL-Blueliner4
Neo
hi everyone....happy new year!, I am new on here and i still am with my abuser, so my nickname will be jean.
We have been together 5 yrs, married 2 1/2. Its alot of emotional abuse and some physical. I just realized the tormet, this past new years, so it's all pretty new to me, i go and see my counseller for the first time on monday. I told my sister the other day and i noticed that seems to be helping alot, it feels like i am coming out of a 5 year coma, its lonley and scary, but i am so thankful i found this board, it is saving my life.
My goal for this year is to get the heck out of my home within the next couple of months. Get my own place and get my life back. By this time next year I hope to be a happy, motivated, full of love person, and be at peace (im only 22).
With the help of this board, my counseller, my family/friends I belive, I hope it will happen...
Jean
I suppose
CL-Blueliner4
Hmmmm..... goals...... Well I know I need to get a job soon... been trying, no luck as of yet. I did speak with my mom however and she may be able to get me a job where she works at the end of April.... so I'd have to move AGAIN, but I'll worry about that as time comes. I may have to get a fast food job, or anything till then.
A big goal is to really be free. Not feel as if he owns me. Even though he moved out, he said he will pay my rent till April when the lease is up..... so I feel like I am in debt to him )o:
Another goal: to get some self-esteem!!!! I used to have too much! lol now I have very little, if any at all.
Happy New Year folks!
Hope you had a wonderful time over the Christmas and that you are feeling optimistic about the new year.
I'm mostly a lurker -- when I have time. And when I have even more time I may reply to the occasional post.
I'm just a by-stander. I am not in abusive relationship myself, a friend is. I stumbled across this website when looking for *anything* on abuse, there were so many alarms going off in my head I just had to try and "educate" myself. I've received advice and support here from such kind and warm people, which I almost feel undeserving of, because I am not in any danger myself.
I sometimes feel like I don't really have "the right" to post here and take away space from people who are in immediate danger or people that are better equipped to give advice than me, but I have been so touched by this community and feel so deeply about this issue. I want to learn more, and most importantly I want to learn how to help. If I can give the slightest bit of encouragement, to anyone, I would be so glad.
I'm a graphic designer, but it gives me no fulfillment, I don't feel like I "contribute" to the world. For awhile now I've been fostering the idea of studying pshychology. Human nature interests me to no end! I've been lightly looking into what kind of education would be best so that I can spend my life helping victims of abuse. Abuse is a terrifying but invisible monster that lives in so many homes across the world and it is so pointlessly shattering SO many lives.
My goal for this year is to live in the moment a little more, and enjoy the little things. Oh, and excercise more. Yuck! ;)
In the light of recent tragedies in Asia, remember to be count your blessings and be thankful for your life, your good friends and family and the choices you are still able to make. Believe in yourselves, because you can do it!
Finally, HUGS to everyone :)
Edited 1/5/2005 7:39 pm ET ET by missiceland
Excellent idea, Gabby.
Mama Harmony
i did not have happy holidays but knowing my goal for 2005 got me through it.
i have been around this board for a long time. it has taking forever to realize that i am most definetly in an abusive relationship. i do not post too often, i am a lurker. i dont feel very confident resonding or even posting because i feel my words dont come out so well and it is mis-interpretted alot. out of all the role calls that has been posted this is the first one i responded too. i do attend the chats and they are wonderful to me, they have held my hand and have put up with me for a long time, listening encouraging and never once judged. told me how it was and that scared me a bit but deep down i knew it to be true just couldnt admit it at the time.
i have a few goals this year - today i started the process of a divorce. i can now use STBX - i wanted to throw up, i still wanna throw up, not because i love him or need him, i am scared to death of what he's gonna do when he receives the papers. we are still living under the same roof. i am going to get away from him one way or another. i am going to be free. another goal i will hit this year will be my blackbelt - this has been such a powerful healing process for me - each step i have taken i thought i couldnt do it, guess what i learned i can do it, i am doing it!!!!!
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