The saga continues ...

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The saga continues ...
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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 9:25am
So he called again, and started talking about her, I didn't mention her. The good news is he seems to be waking up a little bit, he said that the worst thing is that after she actually kills him, she wont even be sentenced - that she'll claim self-defence and everybody will believe her and she'll get away with it.

She's beginning to be more forceful in isolating him from his friends lately. She flipped when he said he was going for a walk and might call up a friend, who she doesn't like because he made some comment about her being annoying (she'd been repeatedly interrupting their conversation with demands). "No you are not calling him when I cant hear you, you have secrets with him!". So he left, and returned home and called his friend in her presence, only to have to end the call because she started screaming "what are you doing?? why are you calling him??". I pointed out that this is text-book example of what abusive people do, that she is worried his friend will warn him against her. He paused, as if he was taken a back a little and then said "I think you're right".

The bad news is, he told me that once when she was screaming and hitting him he picked up a stapler and started stapling into his own leg to see if it would shut her up, and it did. And on another occation he got a knife, and started cutting himself in the arm to get her to stop screaming at him.

God help him.



The bad news is

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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 8:53am
Ooops, excuse my editing typo in the post.

I just read a post from Becky where she writes about cutting herself, and the reply to it from cl_blueliner is maybe an answer to my post - maybe he is cutting himself to show her what she's doing to him, or as some kind of cry for help? He told me that cutting himself and seeing the blood drip on the floor made him feel powerful. Because he got a reaction from her maybe?

I'm really confused and frightened about this, I haven't spoken to him since he told me and I wonder how long to wait before I ask him again, or IF I should ask again at all and just wait for him to talk again. It is scaring me, although I am sure he won't do any life-threatening damage to himself, physically.

He cut himself while both were sober by the way, if that makes any difference? I suppose it really doesn't, alcohol doesn't "make" you do things.