Saw the ex tonight

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Saw the ex tonight
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 8:51pm

I hadn't seen the ex in a long time. Stepmom has been doing the transporting of the kids back and forth for months now. This was one of the rare times I have to face him anymore.

After not seeing him for a long time, I just look at him and wonder, was he really that bad? It's easy to forget all the times he was so mean. All the times he hit me. He looks like someone you wouldn't think would be abusive. He's always clean cut and well dressed.

Can anyone else relate? Do you ever look at your abusive ex spouse and ask yourself if it ever could have worked out? Do you ever look at him and think, was he really that bad?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 10:09pm

Yes, sometimes i look back on photos - someone was visiting tonite & looking at our wedding album - & i think "What went so wrong?" & then i remember, b4 we were even married, he once, in a drunken stupor, raised his hand to me. He never hit me, but that should have been threat, & SIGN, enough, for me to just KNOW then.

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 12:41am
Not so with my "mistake". The whole world got what I got, but I got more of it.
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 9:37am
Btw, how is your ex acting this week? Still ok? Everything must be going better and quieting down for you.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 12:11pm

Thanks for asking. Yep, still quiet.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 12:14pm
SHOOT! Big old update & i lost it! Will do AGAIN, ugh, later tonite.

R~

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 10:22pm
I can't relate, cause it was that bad,and I can't forget. It's been over a year and I still remember how bad it was.