Scared. Confused. Guilty

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Registered: 05-07-2003
Scared. Confused. Guilty
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Fri, 09-03-2004 - 4:08am
First off let me introduce myself.........My name is Kristen I am a 22yo from Chicago. I just got home from my now ex-boyfriends house and I just dont know where to start....... We have been going out for six months and those six months were filled with tons of emotional abuse plus shoving and pushing on his part. I have no clue where to even begin because I know I will sound stupid..... I guess I will begin with what happened tonite: Our night was going ok but he was simply upset about a few things that were going on in his life. He wanted to go to bed. So we went to bed I never fell asleep but he woke up and then wanted to have sex which I was not in the mood for so I declined seeing he was in an awful mood all day and was taking things out on me.

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 11:56am
Kristen,

I'm so sorry you've been in such a terrible situation. You're not crazy. You are hurt and confused and you have good reasons to be. Please don't answer his calls, e-mail's, and instant messages. It gives him a chance to explain things away, and try to make you feel worse. It may lead to you getting back together with him and having to go through this all over again. Do you want to do this month after month? I'm still new to this board, and the women on here are so wise, so you may want to wait for their advise. But my advise is to get out while you're still strong enough to get out. Don't let him talk his way back in.

Best of luck in all your decisions and all that you do,

Becky

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 12:50pm

Hi Princess and welcome -


Becky is right on the nose when she says no contact - and that means with all members of his family.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 05-07-2003
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 3:50pm
Thank you so much for the wonderful advice. It makes me realize that it is not me and that someone is telling me what happened is wrong. I will be sure to stay here and check things out on the board as well as look into the books you suggestsed. I also thank you becki. Its good to know im not crazy and alone.

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 9:24pm
I felt that way too, it's a big reason why I stayed, I was scared to be alone, scared to be on my own. But I got to the point where I realized the abuse was worse than being alone. So even if you are not at that point now, you probably will be at some point.