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scared how he will react
| Fri, 02-03-2006 - 10:40am |
Hi, it's me agin. I read some material on the resouces board and the story posted under the title "making pain into power(or something like that)" really scares me how my boyfriend will turn out when I leave him. He had always said he would let me go if I didn't want to be with him anymore, that he would not regret letting me go. Even if he says so, could he become suddenly violent when I really leave him? Are there any cases where abusers let go of their victims quietly and peacefully?
I'm more scared because I live in Seoul, South Korea. I've searched the internet but I couldn't find much support here as you have in the U.S. I'm still so happy to have some experts here I could talk to. Because Korea is still male dominant in family matters (there has been a lot of improvement but still I believe we have a long way to go), the police and counslers here don;t take the matter seriously unless there is very serious physical abuse. I could not find any practical help provided for victims of abusive relationships. Should I still try visiting a counseler? I'm worried they won't understand to pain I've gone through as well as you do.
I'm more scared because I live in Seoul, South Korea. I've searched the internet but I couldn't find much support here as you have in the U.S. I'm still so happy to have some experts here I could talk to. Because Korea is still male dominant in family matters (there has been a lot of improvement but still I believe we have a long way to go), the police and counslers here don;t take the matter seriously unless there is very serious physical abuse. I could not find any practical help provided for victims of abusive relationships. Should I still try visiting a counseler? I'm worried they won't understand to pain I've gone through as well as you do.

My bf doesn't hit me anymore after I told him it hurt. He used to hit me only on the head. Probalby so the bruises won't show. But he still verbally abuses me and seems to be always looking for something to get me upset like talking bad about my family.
He's just helping me stay strong and stick to my decision to leave him. Thank you again for all the support!