Sentencing???
Find a Conversation
Sentencing???
| Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:07pm |
hi all!
well my dh turned himself in today and called me from prison to let me know. Then his brother called me to tell me that the prosecutor stated the sentence for B and E with assualt is 7-10 years(haha yeh right!) anyways just wanting to know if anyone knows more on this than i do...I really dont want him to do jail time as that will help him less than counselling and courses and some strict guidelines will...he is supposed to start his GED on monday to get into the Army and so hopefully that will help him out(not saying i want him to get off easy but i kno the better he does, the mor elikely he will leav me alone) he even told me he accepts we will no longer be together and that if i move he wishes me all the luck and that he hopes i feel the same with ihm going into the army...which i know is his "good" side but still...just wondering if anyone has experience withthis...My mom told me when my dad assaulted her before they broke up, he only got a 400 dollar fine and community service...so...yeh anyways any thoughts lemme know
well my dh turned himself in today and called me from prison to let me know. Then his brother called me to tell me that the prosecutor stated the sentence for B and E with assualt is 7-10 years(haha yeh right!) anyways just wanting to know if anyone knows more on this than i do...I really dont want him to do jail time as that will help him less than counselling and courses and some strict guidelines will...he is supposed to start his GED on monday to get into the Army and so hopefully that will help him out(not saying i want him to get off easy but i kno the better he does, the mor elikely he will leav me alone) he even told me he accepts we will no longer be together and that if i move he wishes me all the luck and that he hopes i feel the same with ihm going into the army...which i know is his "good" side but still...just wondering if anyone has experience withthis...My mom told me when my dad assaulted her before they broke up, he only got a 400 dollar fine and community service...so...yeh anyways any thoughts lemme know

Sorry, a bit of sarcasm.....but if he turned himself in, he will probably be released on his own recognisance - promising to appear before the judge again at a later date and set free. As far as sentencing, I don't know Canadian law and I know that laws vary from state to state here in the US. He will be told to stay away from you and he will go back to jail if he violates this. But you must also have no contact with him......or you can be in violation of a court order and could face charges......DO NOT LET HIM TALK YOU INTO SEEING HIM, YOU HAVE NO CHILDREN - STAY AWAY. He has a long road ahead of him if he plans to get his GED and then enlist in the Army. But it isn't an easy thing to do if you are convicted of a felony. So far he sounds like he is trying to make a change for the better but.....because he is in jail and is at a very low point in life. Jail has a funny way of straightening people up when reality sinks in. But when they get out they go back to the same way of thinking and it's easier not to try, changing is hard work. It's like my old man, I mean, when we were together, he couldn't- or wouldn't- hold a decent job and as soon as I left, he got a great one, makes good money! He says he is changing and but yet he also says he is working only long enough to get up here to be with me........ SOS. He isn't changing...he lost control and had to get a job to get his butt up here to harrass me some more. Of course he is sweet and polite and SO SORRY when he calls me.....he got dumped and can't handle the thought that after 23 years I didn't give in this time, I GAVE UP! He won't change, he will continue to plead with me, but I don't buy it for a minute. He quit counseling, stopped taking his meds, etc......says he sees the error in his ways. Sorry, he is still the selfish inconsiderate bas#@*% I have always known. He is just changing his tactics to get to me because I am so far away. Too bad his perception of reality is so messed up.......such a waste of his time ......and mine......Keep it together javlyn, he is not in control of his life while incarcerated, he will say anything to anyone hoping they will believe him......then he will be set free. And I don't think you have seen the last of him.......BE SAFE