Should I be leary or go for it?
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| Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:27pm |
Last night my H called and we were talking about our son and what he is doing, when H asked me what I want, I knew what he meant but to be a smart alec I said I would like a new house, a million dollars etc, I said this to see if he would actually say the "D" word and he says that is not what I mean he says do you want a divorce or what. I asked him what he wanted and he said he was confused that he thinks he wanted the divorce but he was afraid that he would see DS less than what he does now. I told him I wanted custody of DS as I have always been his primary caregiver and that he could have liberal vistitation, I was thinking of every other weekend, holiday and DS birthday, plus when H has vaction time he can have DS then too. We talked a while more about it and decided that we make better friends than we do spouses, his words not mine, and we agreed that we both wanted a divorce, he then tells me to go a head and check on it.
My question is this should I be leary of him actually agreeing to all of this or should I go file while he is willing to do it now. I also told him I would not ask for spousal support or an increase in the child support right now as he has health insurance on DS too, I just want this done and over with, without having to go through a big long court ordeal. Also does any one know how long it would take if both parties agree to everything and there is no hassle about stuff (we live in Oregon). We both just want out, as he was actually honest and said that he thinks he has feelings for another girl but becasue we are still married even though we have been seperated for a year he has not asked her out, he wants to wait until we get a divorce which is fine with me. Any thoughts, comments or sugggestions would be great. Thank you.
Angel

Hey there -
My "resolution" had very much the same tone (most of the time), but don't expect this to be this conciliatory all of the time - because it won't be.
CL-Blueliner4