Should I say anything
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Should I say anything
| Sun, 06-13-2004 - 6:43pm |
to make a long story short, thers is this guy I am supposedly "dating." we have been doing what he calls "dating" for 3 months. Here is where things get sketchy: In the beginning-March- everything between he and I was good. He use to spend time with me, take me out places, etc. Anything that normal dates do. Then in April he began to become verbally abusive towards me and began to cut down the amout of time that he would spend with me (from 7 days a week to 2). He also would consistently ask for money and would say that he loved me so much because I was giving him money and that no other girl has ever done that for him. And it's like he would brainwash me into giving him money. He was very manipulative. He would even say things such as "if you don't give me this money to fix my car I swear I will never talk to you again!!!". In May he began to stop calling me, he didn't instant message me as often as he use to (before, he would instant message me all the time, everyday, then he just stopped doing that). He really didn't come to see but but once a week.
Now when I say "come see me" I mean that he would only come to my house to see me, get money and have sex. This has been going on since May. Now he doesn't even want to have sex with me anymore and my intuition is telling me that he has another female, that is why he is cutting down his time with me and doesn't want to have sex as often as he use to. He always makes up this excuse that he is too busy working and has so much stuff to do, etc etc. I noticed that this month (June) he only instant messages me when he wants money or when he wants to know if my checks have been cashed. Whenever I instant message him just to say hey he ignores me and if I try to bring it up he will say "I'm too tired, I don't want to talk about this right now."
I have come to the point where I don't instnat message him anymore or call him. I figure that if he wants to talk to me then he will. But you guys, I know he is probably going to instant message me some time soon asking for something. I just want to speak my mind to him and say "Enough is enough!!!" But I have also been told by friends that he could be busy but I doubt it. Should I speak my mind? What should I say to him? Will he ever change? And what if I do speak my mind, and he really is busy with work, etc.?
Another thing is that I am afraid to tell him how I feel because I don't want to get that "rejected" feeling. You know....if I tell him how I feel and he says "well it's over!!" Then I will be feeling like he dumped me.
Now when I say "come see me" I mean that he would only come to my house to see me, get money and have sex. This has been going on since May. Now he doesn't even want to have sex with me anymore and my intuition is telling me that he has another female, that is why he is cutting down his time with me and doesn't want to have sex as often as he use to. He always makes up this excuse that he is too busy working and has so much stuff to do, etc etc. I noticed that this month (June) he only instant messages me when he wants money or when he wants to know if my checks have been cashed. Whenever I instant message him just to say hey he ignores me and if I try to bring it up he will say "I'm too tired, I don't want to talk about this right now."
I have come to the point where I don't instnat message him anymore or call him. I figure that if he wants to talk to me then he will. But you guys, I know he is probably going to instant message me some time soon asking for something. I just want to speak my mind to him and say "Enough is enough!!!" But I have also been told by friends that he could be busy but I doubt it. Should I speak my mind? What should I say to him? Will he ever change? And what if I do speak my mind, and he really is busy with work, etc.?
Another thing is that I am afraid to tell him how I feel because I don't want to get that "rejected" feeling. You know....if I tell him how I feel and he says "well it's over!!" Then I will be feeling like he dumped me.

It's over...even if there was something who wants to deal with that the rest of your life. Whatever his reasons are, you don't deserve the treatment. It's hard, but don't wait around anymore.
Terry
Hi baby_girl, and welcome -
I agree with Newcam.
CL-Blueliner4
this guy is a baby-man... ditch him. just tell him you're not compatible or something and don't get into it.
and don't take him back. he's a nightmare waiting to happen.
and stop giving him money or anything from you. he ain't worth it.