Sneaking online again

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2004
Sneaking online again
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:08am

Now I have a total of 3 people saying that I AM being abused.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 11:01am
Hi...I won't have time to answer this thoroughly, but I want to address the comment you made about not measuring up. It is not you who is not measuring up. It is your BF's who are not measuring up. You are choosing low quality, self-centered, abusive people to be in relationships with and the only way to fix that is to get yourself into counseling and figure out why it is you don't think highly enough of yourself to hold men to higher standards. I do hold men to higher standards than I used to, since I got out of an abusive relationship. I was single for quite some time, but ended up finding a sweetheart of a man who definitely measures up. That would never have happened if I kept allowing losers in my life. Good luck to you.
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Registered: 10-05-2004
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:16pm

This is not out of love, this is out of CONTROL. This situation really isn't that different from a domestic situation, the only difference is that you are not in a romantic relationship.

I can find out from my husband how to get around the parental controls, but it will take time. I would recommend that you look around the computer and see what you can find- the program she uses may not be all that hard to undo.

One more thing- DO NOT bring your children to that home to live with you! I know you want them with you, but if you do, they will wind up being subjected to the exact kind of abuse you are. I know that that's not something you want for them.

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 7:13pm

You've received excellent advice.