Some ideas in case you get to the point

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Some ideas in case you get to the point
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 10:53pm

where you can finally leave your abuser - & if you have children who he will have visitaion with ... these are some of what i feel are the most importatnt issues in my divorce settlement we are putting forth soon, for the safety of my daughters & my own, emotional & physical well being ...


1. about having joint legal custody with a vindictive trouble-making X who may try to fight you on things, JUST to fight you - whether or not its in the best interest of the child. Someone warned me about his being able to nix schooling decisions, just b/c he can. So, i had this put in: "In the event the parties are not able to reach agreement on educational plans for child, this issue will be referred to a mutually acceptable mediator for mediation, and after speaking with both parties, the child herself, her teachers and/or guidance counselor, the mediator will make the decision which will be binding upon both parties."


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Registered: 06-17-2005
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 12:33am
Thanx, Rich - I am sure it will help a lot of us and we can learn from your experience.
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 7:10am
Very informative and I know with what you provided will help others as well or at least give them a clearer picture and help to understand the situation.
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