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Somebody stop me......
| Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:15pm |
Every evening I get tired and lonely and miss STBX. Every evening I think about calling, emailing or sending him a text message just to say that I miss him......SOMEBODY STOP ME!!!! Any suggestions????


Hon, can you nail down the specific things you need at those times? Is it help with the little ones, companionship, someone who can think straight when you're over-stressed, Someone to share the day's events with? It's easy to say 'whatever you need, you won't get it from him,' but when you see it in little pieces, it can be even clearer. It's easier to see what you can patch over on your own and what someone else can help with. It may be better once you get back to work, too. You'll be busier, but you'll be occupied.
I agree with Wish - his coming around is holding you back. Granted, your choices were limited when you were on bedrest and birthing - TGIO. Could someone come over and babysit him while he's visiting the kids so you could leave? Or just be your support during those times? Maybe he could take the kids to a playground or something.
Hang in there. This will pass. Take care and tell us all about it whenever you need to.
Thanks girls, that's just what I needed!! Plus, I got a very interesting message from one of his best friends at 5am, drunk and hitting on me!!!! He also said in his message that they'd been out all night......so I guess 'Dad' will be sleeping off another hang-over rather than seeing his son..again.... Thanks again!
About him coming over here for visitation...he is looking for his own place and cashed out his stock to do so. This means I probably won't get my half, but at this point I want him to have his own place so that he can help out with the boys more. When he visits the boys now he usually picks them up at school and takes them to the park, however, with the baby it's not possible since he is nursing. Soon he'll be taking breastmilk from a bottle (when I return to work) so he'll be able to have him by himself then.