Wishful, Sorry your feeling so stressed. I hope things go better for you soon. A friend of mine recently picked up some cleaning jobs, she picked where and what times and days/evenings she could go and she makes some good money for such little time spent working. It's just an idea on how to make some extra money that would work around your schedule. i hope you are feeling better, try not to let the argument stress you out to much.
Sounds like things are getting worse for you girl. Did you think about maybe getting another part time job for now? That way you can maybe find a small place and keep yourself busy. She threw that kid thing in to throw you off balance, don't even spend any time on that comment.
She is a piece of work and you need to get out of there. My counselor said for every problem there is a solution. Burden your dad a little, consider moving in with Anika. You need to do this for your own health!!!
Stay calm, you've got a good head on your shoulders and can find a solution, I know you can.
Sending you a big hug! You know, 'where there's a will, there's a way'. Think real hard on any avenue you can travel to get the heck out of there. That woman is going to drive you nuts if you don't get away from her.
Gentle hugs wishful. Like everyone else who answered I am so sorry to hear that it is just getting worse.
Try and find a way to give yourself some downtime. Your mom has gotten you caught up in her whirlwind of confusion and you're losing focus of your need to find freedom. An old saying is HALT, Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. Stop and think about it, you're not treating yourself properly so you're like most of us and aren't eating right, you're angry at this whole situation, you are feeling alone in all of this and you're not sleeping. You need to stop and catch yourself from spiraling down into this any further.
Contact your Dad, see if he can help with the dogs, if he can then seek out just renting a room with someone so that you can not overextend your financial crisis but you can go to a quiet room and sleep in comfort. I've done it and I even could have had a dog because the lady who owned the house had Shelties. These places are out there, but you won't find them when your mom has you going in 10 directions at once.
Another idea is have you thought about asking your vet if you could work part time helping take care of the animals there and maybe assisting him? For pay maybe you could work out part of the pay as a place to keep your dogs? This way you could see your dogs everyday,,help out the vet and both of you could win! Or maybe ask the same at a local kennel,,I know most kennels and vets are always willing to find help at such a reasonable cost!
Are there any farms in your area where maybe you could rent a room,,,put up a kennel out by the barn so that you could have acres to play on and again,,,maybe even help out on the farm for part of your board. Many farms have little apartments for farm help to live in which are nice,,you help out with haying or some chores,,you get to keep your dogs with you and it's a place to find serenity. There are many options!!
Once you start to get a firm footing on your life, once you've gotten away from the center of your abuse you will find it much easier to focus on getting yourself your own place where once again your dogs can live with you.
Sometimes when we have to break free from our abusers we have to sacrifice many of what we have leaned on for all the time we were being abused. If you need to let someone take care of your dogs for a while even though you aren't happy with it,,just think of how wonderful it will be when you get on solid ground and can find a place that you can all share.
It's not right that we have to sacrifice to find freedom, but sometimes it's the only way.
No one is saying get rid of your dogs, but just find an alternate for them until you can get on better ground.
We do care wishful, we honestly do and we hope and pray for you to find happiness and freedom but you have to sit down and catch your breath and start focusing on what you can do not what you can't do. As long as you stay where you are you will not have an easy time of seeing anything but the worst. Get free girl and start seeing what can be!
Sounds like things are getting worse for you girl. Did you think about maybe getting another part time job for now? That way you can maybe find a small place and keep yourself busy. She threw that kid thing in to throw you off balance, don't even spend any time on that comment.
She is a piece of work and you need to get out of there. My counselor said for every problem there is a solution. Burden your dad a little, consider moving in with Anika. You need to do this for your own health!!!
Stay calm, you've got a good head on your shoulders and can find a solution, I know you can.
Terry
Sending you a big hug! You know, 'where there's a will, there's a way'. Think real hard on any avenue you can travel to get the heck out of there. That woman is going to drive you nuts if you don't get away from her.
Hugs,
Jackie
You MUST talk to your dad.
CL-Blueliner4
Try and find a way to give yourself some downtime. Your mom has gotten you caught up in her whirlwind of confusion and you're losing focus of your need to find freedom. An old saying is HALT, Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. Stop and think about it, you're not treating yourself properly so you're like most of us and aren't eating right, you're angry at this whole situation, you are feeling alone in all of this and you're not sleeping. You need to stop and catch yourself from spiraling down into this any further.
Contact your Dad, see if he can help with the dogs, if he can then seek out just renting a room with someone so that you can not overextend your financial crisis but you can go to a quiet room and sleep in comfort. I've done it and I even could have had a dog because the lady who owned the house had Shelties. These places are out there, but you won't find them when your mom has you going in 10 directions at once.
Another idea is have you thought about asking your vet if you could work part time helping take care of the animals there and maybe assisting him? For pay maybe you could work out part of the pay as a place to keep your dogs? This way you could see your dogs everyday,,help out the vet and both of you could win! Or maybe ask the same at a local kennel,,I know most kennels and vets are always willing to find help at such a reasonable cost!
Are there any farms in your area where maybe you could rent a room,,,put up a kennel out by the barn so that you could have acres to play on and again,,,maybe even help out on the farm for part of your board. Many farms have little apartments for farm help to live in which are nice,,you help out with haying or some chores,,you get to keep your dogs with you and it's a place to find serenity. There are many options!!
Once you start to get a firm footing on your life, once you've gotten away from the center of your abuse you will find it much easier to focus on getting yourself your own place where once again your dogs can live with you.
Sometimes when we have to break free from our abusers we have to sacrifice many of what we have leaned on for all the time we were being abused. If you need to let someone take care of your dogs for a while even though you aren't happy with it,,just think of how wonderful it will be when you get on solid ground and can find a place that you can all share.
It's not right that we have to sacrifice to find freedom, but sometimes it's the only way.
No one is saying get rid of your dogs, but just find an alternate for them until you can get on better ground.
We do care wishful, we honestly do and we hope and pray for you to find happiness and freedom but you have to sit down and catch your breath and start focusing on what you can do not what you can't do. As long as you stay where you are you will not have an easy time of seeing anything but the worst. Get free girl and start seeing what can be!
Hugs
Thank you to all of you.