Sooo proud of SIL

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Sooo proud of SIL
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 11:41am

After quite a long time, she is:

*Admitting that what Evil did was abuse (she was raised to think it's not abuse unless he's clobbering you twice daily)

*Admitting that she may have to hire a lawyer and get a formal custody arrangement, and that Evil is probably not fit to take DN for a week at a time

*Agreeing to accept help/advice from my boss if she needs it (my boss has gone through the custody-battle-when-never-married drill, and has BTDT and offered to help)

Apparently, Evil had been telling her that she'd never get custody because she is on antidepressants. Never mind that HE has a history of refusing to take care of his daughter, that I have found at least one unexplained bruise on the kid that you can bet your sweet binky the judge would be hearing about, and I have gotten a call from CPS asking questions about him. Which, oh yes, they told me they would be keeping on file should we ever need it. And let's not forget the male roommate of questionable rap sheet that he's looking to take on. He won't get custody of a freakin' guppy by the time we are through with him, which I told her.

While I'm here, though, does anyone have any info regarding the custody-and-antidepressants thing that I can pass along? (Oh yeah, she's even on them in the first place because of him!) I am 99.9% sure he's full of it, but know that some hard data would help her.

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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:00pm

Erin, you may want to email Harmony about the drug thing.

CL-Blueliner4

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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:31pm

Here's an article on antidepressant statistics I thought may be helpful. http://www.upliftprogram.com/depression_stats.html
You can find many others like it by doing a simple google.I have a question,or 2 questions rather.Was it a family doctor or a therapist-type doctor that put your sister on anti-depressant meds? and.. did she tell them her circumstances as to why she feels like she needed them? If so,maybe she could use her med. records to back her up on the abuse issue. As you'll find in the literature on anti-depressants, taking them by no means means you're "crazy" or unfit as a parent.Quite the contrary actually.To me it says that you care enough about your mental health to seek help when you need it.That shows responsibility. Good luck to your sister.

Serenity

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 9:21am

Good for her! & i cracked up at the guppy comment! hehehe


Antidepressants? 1/2 the freaking population is on them! Shouldnt be an issue at all!

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 7:16pm

Erin, does whoever's prescribing her meds know what they're for, specifically?

 

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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 12:13pm
I don't know if she knows that; we will add it to our list of things to pursue if it does come down to a custody battle. Honestly, I'm not so sure he'd choose to fight it. He says this stuff, but then stands on his head to avoid having to take care of DN, so I wonder if it isn't more by way of having tried to prevent SIL from leaving in the first place than any actual desire for custody. I keep hoping that a Greyhound will come along to flatten him, thereby resolving the matter altogether. ;)
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