Sorry I haven’t post to let you know

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Sorry I haven’t post to let you know
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Sun, 05-08-2005 - 4:17am

Sorry I haven’t post to let you know what happened with the school but a lot has been going on here. and I need to know what you guys would do if it was your kid.
First I when up to the school yelling telling them I was going to sue them for not doing anything about this boy I when on and on for about a ½ hour I school consoler school cop and printable was all their they just let me go on then they asked me if they ever gave each other gifts why they was together well ya nothing wrong with that. Then they asked me about photos they may have given each other I sad sure I have seen photos of him around the house school photos things like that and I am sure she has given him some of her well they said they had some I should see first set they showed me of her was ok taken in my living room no big deal couldn’t under sainted why they care about them then came the next set still in my living room she had no top on!!!! She was smiling
(That will stop a pressed off mom up let me tell you!) well I stay at home and let her have her friends here so I can keep a eye on her I am never gone why they are not in school so I don’t know when they cloud have taken them it was daylight out. I am usually
in my office but I can seethe living room from it all one big room I cannot see on the sofa but I make a point to walk over their all the time and can here everything going on
so I thought well they call her down first she tried to acted like it was not her but you can see 100% it is then they asked her where I was at the time she said I was in my office then she tried saying she felt she had to take them or he would hit her that is so not true she knows all she had to do was say something anything and I would have looked over their. the school had copies of them for a week before they gave them to me and don’t think they would have if I didn’t go up their fighting with them. Anyway it gets worse

she started yelling she was going to track I told her to set down she wasn’t going that day she told me in front of everyone that she was going to do what she wanted to and I couldn’t stop her the cop told her she wasn’t going she told her to shout up she was she told the consoler to shout up she not a real consoler anyway buy this time her dad got their and she started acting like she didn’t just do that said we was lieing to him! He didn’t buy that one at all (now if you knew her you would have never thought she would do this or act like this ever)I know some moms want to tank their kids would never do worgen but I am so not like that this is so not her not at all till this point my biggest trouble with her was getting her school work in on time she never goes anywhere but track after track and school she is home on time and sits in her room reading something she has all way done I like the faxed she would Reith stay home. anyway we got home it got woes (buy the way I made her sign the school paper saying other than track she would not be at school with out a teacher or me) she started saying to leave her alone (she wasn’t in trouble over the photos at this point I felt she most like learned not to let that happen agene)she was in trouble for the way she talked to all of us at school. she said we just didn’t under sainted you know how teens are. But then she started acting like someone did summing to her. She had me thinking maybe her dad did summing she had him thinking I beet her so I took her to the polices station told her if she didn’t want to tell us she cloud tell them as I felt more like she was just hoping she cloud say she cann’t tell us what happen hoping we would leave her alone and feel bad for her. They talked to her told her she had to lesion to us we had ever right to be upset with her stuff like that
I groaned her and wanted to take her off of track but everyone her dad my mom her aunt they all told me to let her stay on it. it was good for her. At this point she was sick watch is one reason the day before in the school I told her she wasn’t going to track it was raining out and she was sick. well the next day I told her she cloud stay home from school just for the day as it was a ½ day and I know if my school had seen photos of me like that I would have wanted a day at home. well she wanted to go she had to run track that day but said she would be home at 12pm in less track was soon from the ½ day but most like wasn’t till 4 ok that fine as she couldn’t be at school if it wasn’t time for track anyway and she said she be home well 1pm came still not home at 2pm I called the school they said no way she was not their the track teacher wasn’t their till 4:15 when the game started at 5pm she knew I would be their at that time I never miss a game I told her if they said she couldn’t run that day for being sick she was to come home well hubby went to the school to see if he could find her she wasn’t their so come time for the game I should up a little late so she thought but I was watching her hug all over guys one looked to be about 25 the others was 18-19 at lest that what she tells me and the 25 year old is still in school! She was in the stands as she was not running that day only the JV’s was and she knew that before she even left that day! So I made her come home with me all the guys was saying (just let her stay mom we will take care of her we are having fun with her!)at this point I want to kill her these guys are the stoner type you know the ones in school that all ways got high (yes I was one in school shh don’t tell her)so I know the type just want to get high and have sex with anyone that they can. one of the guys is in 12th grade and has 3 kids with 3 women and I should just be ok with at lest that what her and my mom thanks (my mom is hoping she ends up bad but that a another store)
Aegen we get home and she starts up on her you just don’t know what happened to me shout up leave me alone stuff at this point she hit me! Was braking my stuff so I called the cops out don’t know what they said to her but I hard them yelling they had me and hubby stay out side one reason we called as the stuff she was saying about she can’t tell us what happened to her we was worried that she go to school and say that stuff the first thing they would do is take the kids till they knew we wasn’t hearting them and I didn’t want that just so she wouldn’t have to deal with what she did wrong. After they talked to her they came and talked to us told us they felt she was just trying to get out of trouble to
And that she ever unmooche for her age witch she never us to be everyone around her has her take care of their kids the schools all have her come watch the little kids when the teachers have meeting and stuff because she has all way been so mauocher for her age.
But they told us their wasn’t much we could do as in less than a year (it 17 here but she thinks it is 18) that she can movie out if she wants well sorry she not their yet if she goes in heart someone the cops will come after us so I think I can do something and will!
Well I have her in DV consoling right know but that not going to do it as she need more than just dealing with abusive. After they left she started talking she told us she has been cutting her self! Now I know nothing about what it is or should I say way people do this.
At this point she has been sick for 2 weeks and not doing good but still being that sick she didn’t thank hay I should go home and go to bed no she felt she should hang out with the boys! Well the next day I took her to the ER she had nomona(don’t think I spelled that right it like the flue but much worse) she was almost dead they said. I asked before the did any x-rays or gave her meds she needed a pregnancy test as with everything she been doing lately I think it was needed even thow she says she never had sex I find that hard to believe. anyway I never told the doctor why I want them to do one but being that she is 16 I don’t thank they would asked why. Well she fought me on that one till they took blood she wasn’t thank god but after they took it they asked me to leave the room she they cloud talk to her .now I have been working on getting her to see another consoler
But with her incursions we have to first go to her doctor to get a ok and I couldn’t get her in their till the 10th )wee they let me back in the room (now at this point I never told them anything going on at home as I was taking her in their for being sick) about 5 mints later the hospital consoler came in telling me they got her in to she the consoler I had been trying to get her in to see right after the weekend and that the ER doctor would give us the ok we needed. I still have no ideal why they did this they will not tell me and she will not tell me. so I am scared that they fund something in her blood work but what could it be maybe a STD or drugs I don’t know if they would do all this for that. I just don’t know what to thank at this point! I also fund out that she was not going to track right after school like I thought so now I don’t know what she was doing all season after school before track. And I don’t know why she would lie to me about that she knows if she not in trouble she can go where ever she wants with in reason as long as I know where she is.
Is wrights poetry all the time lately I have been reading it (trying to fine her diary) I never read my kids stuff with out them saying it ok but felt like I have to know what is going on
Most of it is about how no one know her she has changed so much and no one knows her
She fells like dieing she has a bad life she got it so bad. She does not. Not at home
We love her and her sister so much we have worked so hard to give her a good loving life and home. I work from home very hard to be able to have money and be here for my kids when we had her she the oldest we deiced that it would be best if I stayed home so I stopped working hubby has a good job we are not rich but are doing ok she has way more than most her friends who moms are never home because they have to work all the time to pay bills most their dads are not around a few are in jail. But they seam to be good kids
With loving moms I all way get to know her friends parents (I feel it help full if we know each other and can help each other) we have worked hard to make sure she and her sister can go to collage. I run my own business from home. I keep up with their school work
They have mostly everything they want (not everything don’t fell that good for kids to get everything they want) they have to work around the house and do their best in school to get stuff they want but don’t need they have everything they need and jenny has to get a summer job this year as I fell even though she doesn’t need to it good to and she has to put ½ her check in the bank till she 18.anyway I don’t know why she feels she got it so bad she even told my friend ounces that her friends was her real family as the under sainted her and we don’t. is be laves in witch craft (that is ok with me as I feel they have to try things to know who they are as long as it nothing bad) and I told her it ok some of my friends are and as long as she get her info on it from a someone that know about it and not some kid that ok well she goes around telling everyone I am made at her for it!
She knows I am not. Part of me thanks that she wants her life to be bad for some reason
She looks for something in her life to be bad. but part of me is scared to death that I am missing something. I know it not her dad doing anything to her she told me that and they really don’t spend time alone as he is at work most the time when he not at work he sleeping or in are room on his computer. she doesn’t seam scared of him or anything
And everyone I know all say there is no way he would or has done anything and I know I have not I have never even hit her. So what cloud it be her DV consoler said her ex doesn’t seam to have done much at all to her other than he wasn’t happy with the guys she was hanging all over that her never hit her what happened was he has got in a fight with a guys she was hanging on in the hall way and she stepped in to brake it up and got hit when he was trying to get the other guy not her and that what the school taps showed also and yes he handle it worgen when she ended it but that she feels he was only trying to get her to stay away from the older guys and that she was the one leading him on
Watch at this point I can see but in her poetry she talk about him hearting her. But that she loves him sorry this is so long but I am losing it I just don’t know what to do or thank
I have taken her of track as she lied to me about being their more than ounces.
I and hubby are fighting all the time now as he thinks I am handling wrong. and I think he could be doing more. Some times he thinks I yell at her to much lately. then he tells me
She is just playing me to get her way. but I have not ounces let her get away with this stuff and mostly I fell like she is for some reason just wanting to think her life is so bad
But part of me is scared to say I don’t be lave her that summing bad has happened because what if it has and I told her I didn’t believe her. Like tonight we are fighting because she has missed more than 9 days of school being sick and if she doesn’t do and turn in her make up work she failed 9th grade well it the weekend she doing better and has her work all day today she sate around didn’t do any work at all I told her she was going to do it before she went bed(she never turned in her school work last report card she got all D’s all because she didn’t turn in any home work but boy she fight about staying home when she sick acts like she so has to go get good grades) anyway she said she was going to bed I told her no your going to do your school work well she sleepy now need to get her sleep no “your doing your work” well guess what she seams to have lost it in one day with out even leavening the house I don’t thank so find it and do it I don’t care if it takes all night! After a hour she fund it but wanted to what till tomorrow well I know it will not get done then so no she doing it now before bed now we have 4 computers all with internet we have a full set of encyclopedias and a full set of science encyclopedias all new. She tried to say she need the school to do it one was on a map she just had to color in areas my 9 year old could do it and the other paper was on Hitler and Mussolini she could look it up with a little work but she said it be EXER just to what till school and have her friends who have all ready done it help ya right sure I don’t thank so
So me and hubby got in to it he said I should just let her if she doesn’t do it she will pay but to me I just can not try to make her she will be in 9th grade agene I have to make her do it or at least try after waking her up a few time as she was faking sleeping at the desk
She stop fighting me and got it done. Some time ago I had these corner sleeves laying around that stay to the wall with razors I cloud use them in my office so she asked if she cloud have them for her room I let her they looked nice in their they are very sharp razors as I cut my self trying to put them up well hubby told me today after I read in her book that she thought he seen her he did see her take one off the wall in cut her arm he told he that he told her he would kick her A*** if he seen her do it agene well I want to take them out of her room he doesn’t thank I should as she may find summing wore
To cut her sell well how can I let her keep them know that she see the consoler Friday I took her last week but all they had us do is fill out paper work and she is saying I cannot make her talk to them. Agene I am sorry this is so long but I am loosening it fast
What would you do if it was your kid? How do I fined out what she thanks is so bad?
Do you thank maybe she just wanting something to be bad in her life? What do I do Friday is along time to go before she sees the consoler and I don’t know if I can make it that long. What would you do? Help I love her so much and just don’t know what to do for her she also mad that I am making her get on birth cantor but if she hasn’t yet she will having sex soon but I am also scared that she will thank “well they tank I am I should just do it” or she will thank she can have sex and not us a rubber


Also the school will not give me their copies of the photos the school cop told me she got them from the other cop and that he may have the photos not just copies but he tells me he never seen them the school cop told him about it and asked if he wanted them he told her no she. she or the boys mom has them well his mom will not talk to me and the school will not tell me where they are and I am made if the school cop gave them back to his mom! The school should not have them it didn’t happen at school. my family thanks I should just let it go and not try to get them back as she should have never taken them anyway but I feel as her mom it my job to try very thing a can to get them back!
I will fight for her and with her till the end on anything. I just don’t know how to fight this one

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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 2:32pm

Hi Jenny -


What I was able to get out of your post was that your DD appears to need some serious help.

CL-Blueliner4

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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 11:56pm
thanks so much just posting helps she got 3 weeks left in school this year she will not be going back their next year!i don't know if i can what till friday to see the conslors
i am going to see if mybe she has some disorder (but i am worried about puting her on meds when you here about kids killing them self after being on it)but i realy don't thank that she has that after all the fighting for her doing everything i can think of to be their for her and show her i lover her i starting to think it more she is trying to play us so she can do what ever she wants and not have to deal with us when she mass up she tryed telling me when she get in truble with us we should just leave her alone till she ready to deal with it i told her i can give it say 1/2 hour before dealing with what ever she may have done it will give me time to cool down also but that about it she said no i have to what till she feels ready to be in truble and it may bee weeks! ha boy i would have love my mom to do that i would be ready when she forgot what it did. that and she only starts this stuff "leave me alone you don't undersantd me something happend to me if you loved me you would let me do what i want" i tryed that with my mom didn't work with her when i was a kid. then today i was clean hous and took her stuff in her room fund her homework siting on her bed so when she got home i took her book bag when she wasn't looking to see if she had anyothere work in their i found a littler from her ex thanking her for giveing him a note and asking him to walk her home! he was glad she still loved him well latley he has been leaveing her alone and has a new gril friend. i thank she wanted to get him to chases after her agene if the school or his mom knows she is talking to him she will be kicked out of she and his mom will call the cops on her and well i can't say i would plame them if they did so agene she told me when i asked her about it and told her what will happen to her. she started with the seam stuff leave me alone you don't love or you would let me be i don't care if they kick me out they cann't if we both want to talk.yes they can the school isn't going go though this agene with thim! i just don't know where i went worreng with her. how i missed this stuff till it got this bad i am all way a big bart of what she doese i just don't know what to do at this point every night it a fight if i am upset with what she did we fight if i try to talk to her about anything even the wather out said it a fight. i love her so much i would do anything for her