Spoke to dh psychiatrist-useless

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Registered: 04-12-2003
Spoke to dh psychiatrist-useless
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:38pm

Well, my dh said he had an appointment with his psychiatrist this evening, so I contacted the doctor earlier today and mentioned that all is not well at home like my husband says it is and that I am tired of his Jekyll and Hyde behavior. The doc said the only thing that can be done to deal with this is for me to come in on an appointment, but I told him I would be afraid to do that, but the doc says that's the only way this is can be handled, since the doctor told me he can't tell his patient that "I talked to your wife and she is saying you are acting differently at home. " I would have to be part of a session.

So I guess it was a wasted time. But then the other part of me says if I don't go that means I am not willing to try but I am more afraid of the consequences if I sit in this visit.

ugh.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:04pm

Hi Diana -


I'm going to try and take both posts on here.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:35pm
Either way, it won't make a difference. If you don't go, then your husband is going to put his spin on everything to make himself look like the good guy and the secessions with the psychiatrist will be useless because they are based on lies, or you can go in and the psychiatrist will think up things for you to do to stop his abuse. When in reality it is his problem and only he can stop it.
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Registered: 04-12-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 5:42pm

Thank you everyone for your opinion. Your're right if I don't go I look like the bad guy, if I go it's bad too. He doesn't know that I spoke to his doctor. However for what it's worth, I've at least put the idea in his doctor's mind that he is not telling the truth. I am hoping the doctor would be skilled enough to ask him the right questions to draw that out of him but who knows. My husband has been making comments left and right about my "attitude" this week so he will probably have an earful to tell this doctor anyway, and the doctor will probably think I'm the crazy one anyway...which I truly am to be tolerating all this.

I guess I'll just wait for the callback from the counseling center next week.

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 7:59pm
From what I have learned with working for the company I have been working for,...a psychiatrist cannot help in a situation like this.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 9:33pm

I knwo ALL about that wish that their psyc KNOWS the REAL STORY.

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