January is "Stalking Awareness" Month...
An excellent Link...
Thanks Mama Harmony.
Mine is leaving me "Alone" but I know how hard it was at first.
Getting out or leaving an "Abusive" relationship is not as easy as it seems.
One book that helped me was "Getting Free" by Ginny Nicarthy.
Thanks Mama Harmony!
Hope you have a Great Day to!
Every day is great since getting out of an "Abusive" relationship.
Seemed like three steps forward, two back but I FINALLY did it...
Proud of myself.
When I said it's hard to leave I meant that once you make that decision to really END IT that they are not about to let go...easily or without no holds barred.
I think learning to "Believe" in yourself, that you can and will be able to do this.
Our self-esteem and self-confidence becomes so low, so fragile, it's really hard to regain it but we can...
Our self-worth becomes shattered.
By alienating from our families and our friends we don't have that crucial support.
We get so caught up in what they want/need we forget our own wants/needs.
It's re-learning that we don't need their permission, that we don't need to be "Allowed"...that we don't have to take their cues or do what's expected...sometimes the irony is that they change at their whim and we will ALWAYS never be able to measure up in their eyes.
No that we would want to but sometimes we feel like there is no other option, no way out of this nightmare.
"Survival" Mode is exactly the way and how it is.
People assume that it's simply a matter of doing it but unless they live with "Abuse" or an "Abuser" they just cannot really comprehend the strength and courage it takes to get out to leave and to stay out.
Thanks for sharing this.
ah, the irony...my stbx just went to jail for 24 hrs for violating what they call a "consent order" which has the same language as the protective order but not as much weight..supposedly they were in error in issuing a warrant after I reported that he had apparently followed us to a grocery store from the town where he passes by my dd's dance studio...he seems to watch for us there so he can spy and this time follow...he was just sitting in the outskirts of the parking lot, smoking and watching us, and he left as soon as I started up my vehicle. This was some 20 min after going into the store we came out and saw him! It was my son who spotted him first. My 7yodd also saw him. He had violated a regular protective order that was supposed to be dropped back in July. My atty said it would not hold up in court so it was better to drop it and get the consent order (I waited too long which made my case weaker, if I understand correctly)
"sorry if this is confusing! I have this great need to share it
sometimes, because i am the one who feels like i am losing my mind!"
I understand completely, it's why they call it "Crazy-Making", they are Masters of it!
Absolutely hated driving with my ex.
Know exactly what you mean.
It's good to share our experiences.