Starting to feel like I can't do this...

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Starting to feel like I can't do this...
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Thu, 04-07-2005 - 7:06pm
I am sooo overwhelmed right now....I'm starting to doubt that I can handle all of this. Right now I am six months pregnant. I have two little boys, ages 3 and 22 months. I'm in school and I work. I am just sooo stressed out. I know that as my pregnancy progresses, it will only get harder. I do have my mom close by, and she helps out when she can, but that's not very often. Every night I pick up the boys from daycare, come home and just want to sit and cry because I am sooo tired. With H here, he would help out some in the evenings with the boys (sometimes). Right now the boys are all over the place. They don't behave very well in the evenings because I know they are tired too. They just fight constantly and every five minutes there's some loud crash I have to check on, and it's usually something bad. I feel like my head is going to explode. I'm way behind in school, we're shorthanded at work so I've been working longer hours, and I'm so tired and stressed that I snap at the boys for little things. Add to that the fact that H is now calling being all sweet asking if I need any help or if I want him to come over so that I can rest or do homework. So far, I've only caved once. I let him stay here last night and have regretted it. He had the day off of work, yet refused to get out of bed to help get the boys ready for school. :o(
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 8:47pm
Oh Sam, honey, just reading your post made me tired.

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 8:59pm

Harmony,


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Registered: 01-10-2005
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 12:48am

Hi Samantha,
I can sympathize with your situation.Your house sounds alot like mine! I'm a newly separated mom with 4 kids.I know it can be so tough, and bless your heart you have one on the way.You truly are spread thin though,and in your condition that's not good for you or the children.I agree with Mama, ask for help from family, friends or who ever you trust with your children.EVERYONE needs help from time to time so don't be afraid to ask.
I don't know the story with your H,but if he's abusive in any way,(physically,emotionally..whatever)what little help he may offer could not outweigh the added stress he will cause you.Again, Mama is right, eliminate as much of the stressful things in your life as possible. I understand you wanting to continue with school,as I'm sure it helps to boost self esteem and also gives you a little more time to yourself without the little ones! I wish I could help you more,just hang in there Hon.Where there's a will, there's a way!

Hugs,Serenity