stood up to him last night

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Registered: 06-14-2005
stood up to him last night
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Wed, 12-28-2005 - 1:10pm

Once again we got into a fight, where there was name calling again, but I told him that it didn't bother me and if calling me names made him feel good, to go right ahead. I said he was no better than a schoolyard bully.

Also, during one of his nice moods, he had given me a day at the spa certificate where it included a hairstyle and makeup application. Well, I would think it would be nice to go somewhere for dinner afterwards since I was all dolled up, but of course why would that occur to him, so I mentioned to him that I was going to dinner w/my girlfriend since I was going to be all dolled up and he said well I could have taken you to dinner, I said that's ok buddy you missed that boat. I'll have a better time with my girlfriend that I will with you, plus, remembering the names he called me before, you wouldn't want to be seen with a x&**#)) would you?

I figure until I leave I don't have to take bs from him anymore!

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 11:11am
I think that's great how you called him on his behavior. You sound like you have an inner strength, that you know you don't 'need' any man that badly, you are better off with your true friends than you are with a verbal abuser.
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 8:04pm

Hey Girl, ltns!

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 11:25pm

Dear wishful,

Thanks for your encouragement, I feel like I have made progress, thanks to the support of this board and friends and family, even though I sometimes feel the end is nowhere in sight, but every day I grow a little stronger and that helps me move closer to my goal.

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Registered: 06-14-2005
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 11:36pm

Dear novembersky,

Thanks for your words of support as I vent once again on this board. That's probably one thing that I have never given up easily, and that is my girlfriends, while I may not be able to do as much with them as I would like to because of my husband's controlling behavior but I know they are there for me and will always support me.

Once I am out of this relationship, I could NEVER see myself wanting to be with another man ever in my life. I am perfectly happy doing things on my own, and I have actually started to do so, like go to movies that I actually like (on the sly of course whenever I can get away.)

Even though my abuser has made me think I need him, I know that I don't and he is the one that needs me.

Thanks again for your support!