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|Thu, 02-17-2011 - 10:56am|
I havent posted in a while but I really need a reality check right now. I left my H the week after christmas and moved into an apartment with my two DD. Things with the h have been much better than I had expected. He has been helpfull and kind, but I know that it is only a surface change. There is no concrete change there. My daughters and I have been doing fine but I find us spending too much time with H under the guise of "getting along" for the kids. I know everyone here says no contact is the best way but I didnt head the warnings. We eat out often and I do laundry at his apartment. My oldest DD and I had the flu last week and H was right there taking care of us, which was nice but now I am getting the "you owe me" treatment. He also has been telling everyone that he is paying my bills. This really ticks me off. I guess more than anything. I paid my rent and light bill this month, but to hear him tell it he paid it. He gave me $80 a couple of days before I paid my rent and somehow thats him paying my rent. No, that money went to feed your children and put gas in my car to drive them to school and to ball games. My biggest issue now is my light bill balance is over $600. My first months bill at the aprtment was $170, this months is $150. I can pay this no problem , what I cant pay is the $400 bill that is due for the last month that HE lived in our old house! He doesnt seem to think that he should have to pay this for some reason. It of course falls to me because the lights were in my name. Everytime I bring it up he says He cant continue to pay my bills, hello? this is your bill mister! We get our income tax refund back tmrw and I am going to use part of it to pay off the light bill but that will of course come out of my half of the refund. I think with the remainder I will be getting some paperwork filed to get Child support payments started then I can get the money i need to care for the children and he cant call it paying my bills!