thanks ladies

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Registered: 04-25-2004
thanks ladies
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 12:17pm
I don't know if you'll remember, but a while back I posted on here about the problems I was having with my boyfriend... Two of you replied, saying that I was in an abusive relationship and I needed to get out of it. I never responded because that was not the answer that I wanted to hear.. I wanted for someone to tell me that it was perfectly normal and every guy is going to be like that and I just needed to "tough it out"... so I just kind of blew it off and forgot about it. Well, just like you told me, things have started to get worse. If we aren't together, he is CONSTANTLY checking up on me and asking where I am and who I'm with, and he never believes what I tell him anyway. Sometimes I think the main reason he wants to see me so much isn't because he loves me but because he just doesn't want me to be with anyone else. He's only happy if I'm with him, or sitting home alone.

We got in a huge fight last night because I went to my friends house for a few hours after seeing him pretty much 24/7 for a few weeks with basically no contact with anyone else. Today, I'm happy to say, I broke up with him... Now, we've broken up before and then just got back together, but I'm not going to give in this time. I just wanted to thank those two for the advice you gave me which I'm just starting to use...

I thought I'd be devastated when we broke up, but it's actually exciting... I'll actually be able to have a life again! Although, this is only the first day. I know it's going to be tough, and I'm sure I'll be back on here several times in the next few weeks. Thanks for your support ladies :o)