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| Sun, 12-19-2004 - 10:42am |
Hi everyone I'm 26 and my girl is 26 and i really missed up big time and need advice
o.k here is my problem about two weeks ago i went to cali to visit my gf for a week. Everything was going fine we went to vegas did the toursit thing around los angeles then it happen. I'm a huge denver broncos football fan and they had a game that they lost on sunday and the next day we were suppose to go to mexico but i didn't feel like going and she got mad. She said if i didn't want to go i should just go home so i snapped and packed my bags to leave. A hour pass then 2 hours and she still is fixing her hair and etc etc. I took this the wrong way i guess so to hurry her up i light a cigratte to force her to do something. She gets a hold of the pack of cigrattes and throws them out the door, so i get her pocketbook and head for the door and she blocks it so i push her out of the way.
I called her on thursday and she was still mad saying i don't respect women, i take her for granted, i said i would never hit her( which i didn't feel i did) and i still smoke ( only because and she knows i needed something to calm my nerves before i took my flight ) however i did stop drinking for her. I think I said all the right things like it will never happen again, i'm sorry i can't live without you, but in the end i think i sounded like a made for tv movie
She now says she needs a break for about a month to think if we need to be together or not.
My question is would it be wrong to call her before a month or send flowers? We been together for about a year and a half and everytime we had a agruement it only took a week or so to make things right. This time however I feel this might be the end because it got somewhat physicial. Is there anything i can do? I just feel a month is a long time and eventhought we agrue what couple doesn't it just got out of hand this time we are good together. I just don't know what to do
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I need to make it clear to you that this is not a board for the perpetrators of abuse and violence, it is a board for the victims of abuse and violence, therefore, we
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Let me make this clear first off yes the fights we have are immature. The last one which was about money she thought i was holding back on her and she broke up with me. I'm the one calling trying to makeup did i get physicial no. We kicks someone out of their house because she thinks someone is talking bad about them before even asking was it true just going by hear say but that's another story. I was wrong in pushing her i know that and yes i was upset about the game but it wasn't really about that its about her not respecting me or trusting me the past comes back to haunt us. I talk to her about how i will change but in the end if i ask her to change its why i need to change its her way or the highway. Who gets so mad because they can't go somewhere? I'm willing to gain that respect back but in the end if she doesn't realize not to get so mad easy when things don't go her way just like i need to do this will happen again.
But don't make it seem like i'm the only one wrong in why this got to this point