There is some light finally!!

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Registered: 05-12-2004
There is some light finally!!
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Thu, 04-07-2005 - 12:19am
Dear friends,
Firstly an update : I have asked for a divorce!! I did it I finally did it, now for the tricky part we have decided to finish some of our renovations before we sell or house. This is the best outcome for the both of us and should get us a fair deposit on individual places when the time comes. And there lies the problem it has been 6 weeks and there have been so many delays not through any of our fault. So things have been progressing a few hiccups here and there, like him threatening to walk out a few times and leave the house in its state which is almost unlivable!! Other than that I have been bitting my tongue and flying under the radar so to speak with the one thought that gets me through and that is being on my own!! So after going on a very mild anti-depresent I actually am starting to feel normal again, why i waited and resisted I don't know I was spending so much energy on keeping myself together it was exhausting but I have a great new doctor and he has really helped me to get my Crohn's, migraines and mood back in order. NOW FOR THE GREAT NEWS. I am off to Cairns Great barrier reef for work next week, Three days working and four days relaxing!!!! Yippeee no STBX and a nice break from the household!! I am so excited I can hardly breathe!! AND ITS GET BETTER I was actually going to have to go back to working part-time shift work at the end of the month and give up working my two days per week which I did not want to do because I so enjoy not working weekends and evenings but we do what we have to and then I heard on the grapevine that there was job going in another department which was 5 days per week SCHOOL HOURS and I spoke with the manger and I GOT THE JOB (Temporary relief and then go from there!!) I can't believe it it is perfect so I will be able to be home for my girls after school and home all weekend!!! I HAVE TO SAY I AM THE HAPPIEST I HAVE BEEN IN MONTHS AND MONTHS!!!
Girls believe me break free from these men and your life can change I am living proof, I actually feel like myself for the first time in about 4 years and that is no lie. Don't try to hang on because I did and it won't change fundamentally he is the same guy. He finished his counselling course yesterday (24 weeks) and he is better but when he gets angry I can see in his face how badly he wants to be abusive and he is only hanging on by a thread which eventually will break and when it does I am the one who gets hurt and ends up having to re-live all of the cr*p he has put me through. WELL NO MORE I AM TAKING BACK MY LIFE AND ITS THE BEST THING I HAVE EVER DONE and my girls and me are going to reap all of the rewards of my strength and resolve to NEVER LET ANOTHER PERSON ABUSE ME AGAIN!!!!
I am off now to choose some benchtops for my kitchen its only been three weeks living off the barbie!
Bye girls and be good to yourselves!!
M
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 12:54pm

WAAAAA-HOOOOOOOOOOOOO!


Oh, that is fantastic news!

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 05-12-2004
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 1:16am
Hey Blue,
Thanks for the advice and encouragement!! Luckly we have been taking photos the whole time to keep a record of what we have been doing, so I will make copies. This is my sanctuary when I can get here and I am very excited. I have some comments I would like to post as a new discussion so have a look I sooooo value your opinion!
M