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Thinking of leaving town.
| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 1:21am |
I have read all the replies to my posts and thought things through. I am thinking of going to live with my family in another state. I guess I really didn't think the situation could end up being as bad as it is. How crazy was I to think he would just go away. I must admit I really got scared when I read the "Is he lethal" checklist. I answered yes to 13 out of 21 questions. I figure that is not good at all. I think it is best if I take my children(I have 2 girls ages 3 and 1) and myself out of the state. My family knows some of the situation and they want me to come stay with them. He has made it clear that no one will stop him and that I supposedly "belong to him". Everyone says I should leave for a while, but one friend told me that I would just be running away from the problem and that leaving wouldn't solve anything. I can't help but wonder if she is right. He is slowly but surely wearing me down and I am starting to wonder if I am just overreacting as he calls it. I am not overreacting to his behavior am I? I mean in "normal" relationships people don't tell you where you can go and who you can talk to and what to wear & fly of the handle when you are not home when they call. In "normal" relationships people don't hurt each other sexually and they don't force themselves on you? Anyways he doesn't know my out of state family or where they live so I think my girls and me would be safe there. One last question if I leave do I still need to get the restraining order? I am avoiding doing it because I am afraid it will make matters worse. Thanks for listening. -Kristin-

The only thing I would check on if I were you, is the laws in your state about taking the kids out of state. Make sure.
I have been in physically abusive relationships so I know how possessive they can be. The most important thing is DO NOT TELL HIM YOU ARE LEAVING!!!!!!!! Just get your stuff ready and leave, don't look back. He will try to stop you and it could get very ugly and dangerous. These guys do NOT let you go without a fight. So dont tell him!!!!!!
The best of luck and please don't doubt yourself. Its the worst thing you can do.
KK has given you awesome advice.
CL-Blueliner4