threatens me with abuse charges

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Registered: 07-27-2004
threatens me with abuse charges
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Wed, 07-28-2004 - 12:01am
Long story short: I got away from abusive husband more than 2 years ago. separated, with OFP etc. I have 2 beautiful kids and after long reflection and listening to his begging almost everyday to come back, his promises to change/therapy, seeing kids miss him so much, seeing that he lost his job, I let him back in our lives about a year ago. It was ok for a while. But things have gotten really very bad now. He is extremely vindictive, puts me down and my parents/family every chance he gets in front of the kids. Before I thought he had some love for me; now all he does is hate me with a vengeance, tells kids how mommy is so selfish, no manners, etc etc , threatens me, shouts in my face, almost hits me. Won't leave either. Recently he has started a new tactic . Even if I raise my voice with the kids he says he will call police - I should get the lesson he got (I had had to call the police once). When this happened today I couldn't talk for the scare it gives me. Now I am kicking myself for not having been strong enough and listening to his pathetic whining while separated. This is getting too much for the kids of course. I want to leave of course, but have to think about his threats of abuse charges against me, his threats of taking all money etc. I feel like he came back so that he could get his revenge at me, and get the kids, with some false charges against me. Has anyone faced this situation where the other party is falsely accusing you although you are the victim ?

thanks for reading.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 12:27am

Hi Kuku, and welcome -


Unfortunately, this is textbook pattern for abusers.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 07-27-2004
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 11:49am
Thank you so much for your support and information. I had the OP renewed once, but let him come back before it expired, and now it is expired. Do you think think there will be questions in the court of why did you ask for protection and threw it away etc ? Also, I had a lawyer help me the first time. I am thinking of contacting him again. He was instrumental in negotiating child support etc very quickly during our court visit. Although at that time my husband was somewhat shocked by what I had done and didn't put up a fight. Now in court, he is likely to. I do have notes that I have written about what happened when, and have called a relative to talk. Are these going to be necessary as evidence that I am telling the truth?