Tomorrow is the day

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Tomorrow is the day
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 9:48pm

Hello all!

I posted here a few weeks ago regarding my husband and his drinking and emotional abuse. I have decided to file for divorce, tomorrow. I posted on surviving divorce for anyone who is interested in my story.

For anyone who lives with an alcoholic, whether they are a happy drunk, an abusive drunk, or just a drunk, know this: once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. it is a disease, an ugly disease that effects husbands, wives, children, parents, everyone.

i mistakenly went to an AA meeting last night. ( i was looking for al-anon and went into the wrong room) For you Seinfeld fans, it was like the episode where George goes to an AngerManagement meeting :-) i decided to stay and see what it was all about. After the meeting, an elderly gentleman approached me and asked me what my plan was. I told him that i was seeking a divorce. I was tired of the booze (i drink too, just not an 18 pack a day or whatever else i can get my hands on, nor do i wake up at 3:30 am, turn the tv on and grab a beer, sleep in, unable to help getting children out to school or unable to dress myself for work)

He congratulated me and told me to stay firm. I will post a follow up after i file. I am afraid of his response tomorrow. He will yell at me, tell me i'm a bitch, i'm the problem. I am not going to listen. I am breaking the pattern; his grandfathers were alcohlics, his parents were/are alcoholics, his brother is an alcoholic, my father and grandfathers were alcoholics. ENOUGH!! My children are more important than anything in this world. I hope they understand some day that i did this for them.

Thoughts and prayers are needed and welcomed.

christine

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