Took Assault To Get Cops To Pay Attentio

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Took Assault To Get Cops To Pay Attentio
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 8:10pm
Well, as you all know, I thought it was over and done. however on saturday night he assulted me(split my lip, may have fractured my nose, kicked me in the head and stomach) and has now threatened to kill me and swears he will before he ever goes to jail...so needless to say im terrified he will carry through..i have charged him with assault, uttering threates, property damage and two other charges i cant remember plus a restraining order is being arranged against him but i still feel terrified he will kill me as i would not put it past him!
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Sat, 07-01-2006 - 6:36pm
i called and let them kno he had contacted me however i had no idea where he was so they didnt seem to think i was much help..oh well...its canada day and im going to try to have a good day!
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 11:41pm
Hi ... its laptoptime again......Tomorrow is Tuesday......I hope he turns himself in and you can get on with your life. Somehow I doubt it......keep me posted, I've had a few busy days lately so not much time for posting.......new jobs always occupy one's mind.....HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY TO ALL!!! ( hope you enjoyed Canada day, too!!)
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 11:44pm
well heres hoping he does tho i doubt it as well....i saw him at the park on july 1st and he talked to a friend of mine and seemed like he had totally forgotten that anything ever happened...he even told her that she and i and all my friends were ivited to a party that night lol...like im gonna go...oh well anyways heres hoping! and have a wonderful july 4th(my puppies bday :) )
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 11:48pm
Kiss your puppy for me......they are the best kind of friend.....loyal and unconditional love....no matter what kind of day you have had......nice if men were that way.....lol
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 11:53pm

:) thats exactly what my mom said...shes like, why cant all men be like the dogs, so happy to see you and loving unconditionally all the time :)
wouldnt that be nice? wonder how thatd look in a personal ad
"SWF looking for a nice man just like her dog(minus the drool)..NS"

lol

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Tue, 07-04-2006 - 12:29am
I don't know how your puppy is but my Ally sleeps with me and isn't real fond of sharing the bed with anyone BUT me. And you know what....I have become real accustomed to her being there to 'kiss' away my tears and con me into giving her a belly rub when I'm down. She knows me all too well......had her for 4 years and she is always there for me no matter what......she dislikes my H and when I left him....I took her with me, not him!!!! He even said something about choosing the dog over him......( well, I wonder WHY???) Will check in with you soon....hang on there girl!!!
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Tue, 07-04-2006 - 12:41am
haha sounds like my ex...even tried to blame the dogs for our relationship..according to him, my babysitting my moms dog alot and paying more attention to my dog than him is what drove him to be a psycho lol...oh well shes alot cuter than him!
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Tue, 07-04-2006 - 3:01pm

Well....isn't it funny how an abusive person always blames their actions on the behavior of others?? And I know exactly what you mean about the dog issue.....mine would say the exact same thing. Or something like .."If you paid as much attention to me as you do to -the cats, the dog, the kids, our roommate's kids,etc.(fill in spot with answer of choice) I might not be such an a-hole" LOL Why would I want to pay attention to someone that has belittled, humiliated and embarrassed me for the longest time?? If you were to hit an animal everytime you called them to you, guess what? They stop coming to you!! DUH!!

My H has always used his 'altered states' as the reason for his behavior. He has been heavy into many different drugs and alcohol for a long time. Never went for treatment, always in denial. He actually went to counseling when I left him but quit because it 'interfered' with his new job. He actually got a good job once I left - WHY couldn't he do that when I was there. Now he makes good money but he says it's only until he can make enough money to move here. He plans to sell off all of 'his' belongings to come here to win me back......I have told him it wasn't necessary, he shouldn't sell everything, he cannot live here with me and I don't want him back. But you know, he is THICK as a brick.

Here's hoping your days are good and your nights are peaceful. Mine are pretty good considering but I have friends and family around me 24/7....thank goodness. Then again, I do look forward to living on my own, no kids, and just my little dog for companionship.........ahhhh that is heaven!!!!!!

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Tue, 07-04-2006 - 4:15pm
Well its the day he said hed turn himself in and I dont think he has, as he was at my door at 12pm today banging on it but i wouldnt even acknowledge it just stayed upstairs until he left...Anyways here's to hoping hes in jail tonihgt and I know whats going on in my life by tomorrow!!
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 9:03pm
OMG i cant believe this! How did I live with such an idiot all this time? The lady for domestic services called me to let me know my application for restitutions had been submitted and I should hear the result soon...Anyways, she told me he never was caught and has not turned himsefl in so the warrant is still active...So then he calls me an hour later to ask if I have his electric razor thing(which is mine but oh well) and I tell him he has to turn himself in as the warrant is still outstanding and he says "what? i said id pay for the door and the damage to the siding and the walls" and i said "uhhh you still have to turn yourself in for this warrant for your arrest" and he said "well no i thought it would just blow over" WTF???!?!?!?!?! is he that stupid? like really, you think the cops will forgive u like i have over and over? heck no! ugh hes so stupid...then he tells me if he has to do anything mroe than pay for my door he's going to tell themn i broke into his apt. he mjust got..i was like uhhh thats lying and guess what he says "i dont care b**ch if i go down you're going with me!" ughhh he so friggin stupid i cant believe it!!! like does he think for all the charges against him, theyre only gonna make him pay for damages? no hell at leats getcommunity service and placed in rehab programs etc, if not some jail time for assault...UGH im just so disgusted with his stupidity i cant even see straight!