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Trapped.
| Tue, 06-27-2006 - 1:35am |
I am trapped. I have no friends, I have no job, and my family lives in another state. He will not allow me to work and if I get a phone call I am conspiring against him. I am a whore, a B, a slut, a skank, nasty, and lazy. Because of him I went from being semi-confident to weak and pathetic. I have major anxiety problems and have panic attacks on a daily basis. Nothing I do is right. He treats me like I'm five years old, telling me when to eat, when to go to sleep, what to wear. My birthday was a few weeks ago and he wanted to buy me clothes but he wanted me to buy old lady clothes and Im only 31. The physical abuse hasn't happened since October but that is only because my 26 year old brother is living with us. He sees the way my husband treats me so he is going back to Kansas because he says that if he has to continue listening to the way my husband treats me he will end up in prison for killing him. I have asked him not to interfere to keep him from being kicked out but since he's leaving the physical part will start again. If I leave I could. But our 3 children love him, despite the way he treats me. My 10 year old is starting to see the way he really is and she lets me know how she feels. Anything can set him off, for example, one night he broke my $1300 laptop because he couldn't find a stick of gum. I am a good person and have never done anything in my life to deserve to be treated like this. My family never really knew what my life was like until my brother came here, but there really isn't anything anybody can do to help. My life has been hard since I was a child, every man that has ever been in my life has treated me badly and the one man in this world that is supposed to love me treats me like garbage.

Hawk, you got a great suggestion from Geo.
I have no idea where the police are getting this. If you were mugged, would you need to be a resident for 30 days before you can file a report??? I'm no lawyer, but that doesn't sound right.
Couple things. Check out www.womenslaw.org to see what is going on with this, and to see about custody issues. An abuser will most likely NOT get custody, but they like to scare their victims by claiming they will. It's another tactic. You might also try talking to the police in *your* state to see what they know about how to leave. I know that other people have contacted the police before they leave in order to prevent the ex trying to charge them with kidnapping, so this would seem to be along the same lines.